102: Benefits of Breaking Up Without Being Broken

We all experience break ups, right?


They suck!


Thankfully, there are benefits to breaking up and today we discuss them.


In this episode of the WPOV series, Ariel, Ces and Rochelle will discuss the benefits of breaking up, why women should embrace them and how to avoid being broken after a break up.



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Episode Title: Benefits of Breaking Up Without Being Broken


Your Hosts:


Music: Vivian Green – Gotta Go Gotta Leave (Tired)


You Can Say That Again Girl!:

  • When something starts off bad, I don’t know if you can ever turn it into something good.” – Rochelle


  • “If it’s a true friendship I believe you can bounce back from anything, but God has to be at the center of it.” – Ariel


  • “We say we want men to be vulnerable and sensitive, but I don’t want you breaking down crying.” – Rochelle


  • “There is a lesson in everything we do, the good and the bad.” – Ces


Now That’s Wisdom!:

  • The need to take baby steps when co-parenting a child
  • Why you should avoid going back to an ex or a failed relationship
  • The benefits of breaking up


Speak On It!:

  • The ladies discuss their most memorable break ups
  • Ariel shares how great it is to be good friends with her daughter’s father again
  • The impact that internalizing feelings can have on women
  • The most valuable lessons learned from break ups
  • Do men or women handle break ups better?
  • Slippin up and going back to exes because the sex is great
  • Breaking up vs. being broken up with


Let’s Be Honest Girl!:

  • Ces opens up about why she was unable to uproot her life for a man
  • Rochelle honestly admits that she never got closure from one of her worst break ups
  • Can men and women really be just friends?
  • The danger of hanging on to an ex and trying to remain friends
  • The challenge for women to end a bad relationship
  • Handling men who cry after a break up


Here’s What Happened to Me!:

  • Ces tells about the break up that led her to no longer want to find Mr. Right on her own
  • Rochelle talks about some of the trust issues she had to deal with earlier in her life
  • Ces explains how she went from hating an ex to being cool with him again
  • Ariel tells about how her father brought an end to one of her college relationships


Check This Out Ladies!:

Ariel’s blog post about her relationship with her daughter father, Spot Changing Leopards


Answer This!:

Hey ladies!

After listening to this episode, do you believe there are benefits to breaking up?

Leave us a comment below and let us know.



  • Destiny's Truth
    March 27, 2015

    Ladies, this was another really great show! I could relate to every situation you each experienced and you ladies had me laughing too (the “baby daddy” and “scrapping” comments and Rochelle’s response to a man crying was priceless). You all gave some good insight into how to embrace your break ups and learn from them. I know what it is like to stay in a relationship, because you want your child to have access to both parents. Going back repeatedly with the same results. Also, I know what it is like to make a very hard decision to close the door on that relationship and not look back either. That was a difficult decision, one I had to make because I had learned to finally love myself and our child more than him and the relationship. I wanted to raise a young man that loved and honored a woman, so I had to show him what a woman that values herself looks like. Ladies keep the good content coming and I feel like I know each of you, because your personalities are so authentic and kind. God bless you all.

    • singlemomsmile1
      March 28, 2015

      Destiny! Thank you for listening sister. We are blessed by your kind words. It is great to know you enjoyed the show. It is even better to know you have made the best decisions for you and your son. It’s not always easy but it is right. Be blessed and much LOVE

    • LadyRo46
      March 29, 2015

      Destiny, thank you for your continued support. We are so glad you are enjoying the show and finding us relatable. I’ve know your situation so well. We want so much for our kids but too often sacrifice what’s best for ourselves in the process. I am a cave woman, I admit it. Everytime I listen to the show after its recorded, I can’t believe some of the things that come out of my mouth.

    • LifeCoachCes
      March 31, 2015

      Destiny!! You literally just brought tears to my eyes. First, thank you for continually loving and supporting RTRL and WPOV — and second, thank you for posting your truth! I thank God for the example that you’re setting for your son and for everyone who hears even an ounce of what you’ve shared. Self love is crucial, can be difficult, but it’s such a beautifully imperative thing — and I’m glad you’ve embraced it!

      And sis, let me tell you… we laughed about “scrappin” for a while, even after we finished the episode. What you guys hear is raw and super real, especially the laughter, so I’m glad you laugh along with us! But that’s also why we feel like we know you too! Haha! Even though we haven’t met, the R.E.A.L. Love community really is just that, a community. 🙂

      So thank you again for your continued support and remember, you can always connect with us on Twitter and via email: TheWPOV@gmail.com too. 😉


    • Jay
      April 1, 2015

      Thank you so much for listening and opening up about your personal experiences too.

      I appreciate that and I pray that you continue to enjoy WPOV!

      God bless you too!

    • Guest
      April 1, 2015

      Thanks for listening and sharing you thoughts and experiences with us.

      Peace and Blessings

  • Autumn
    March 30, 2015

    I listened to the show yesterday while cooking. I was thinking about my own breakups. Whenever anyone decides to leave there is something wrong with that relationship. The sheer act of breaking up really does break it apart. It’s hard when it’s a nice, sweet man who hasn’t done anything wrong, but you just don’t have the love for him. Or when you are the nice, sweet woman and the guy simply isn’t the one for you. Those are more subtle situations. Nothing is toxic and parts of it are quite good, but it’s just subtly not quite right. Do you still break up in that case? Years ago, no. But now, yes, I suppose. The myth of The One persists. I don’t know if there is one ‘One’. I believe there are many ‘ones’ out there and maturity, timing, and compatibility determine who you can make it work with.

    I have cried with a man during a break up. We both cried. If a man cried and I didn’t, I wouldn’t hold that against him. I’m a sucker for sweetness and I don’t think it’s weak at all. It means he loved me and that’s a gift even if it’s a gift I choose not to accept from him.

    What stood out most for me in this podcast was the story of giving up a man to stay in school. I honestly don’t know what I would have done in that situation. I can be stubborn so it might have made me more want to stay with him, when faced with an ultimatum. Especially when I was young. I never said I was very practical!

    WPOV is an interesting podcast and it will be interesting to see how it goes.

    • singlemomsmile1
      March 31, 2015

      Thank you for sharing and being so open. Ending relationships are never easy. I must admit admit that I really don’t know about “the one” theory. I don’t believe there is “one” either. There very well maybe nobody at all as evidenced by God allowing people to be single until they die. I am getting more comfy with this idea everyday.

      When I was in college I had the mentality of my education will stay with me forever but a man won’t. There were tears and the breakup wasn’t easy by any means. However, I wanted to a be a nurse since I was a 5 not a girlfriend/wife.

      Glad you find WPOV interesting. Stick around because it’s going to get better.

    • LifeCoachCes
      April 1, 2015

      Thank you for support and sharing your perspective, Autumn! I agree, I think there are many “ones” but in my opinion, there is ultimately only “one” that we pick to spend the rest of our lives with, should we choose to marry at all. I believe that God knows who that will be for me, even if I have several other options along the way. 🙂

      And I completely understand the point of nothing really being wrong, but it also not being quite right. I have been there and that’s actually the exact situation I was in with “the guy who cried.” It really broke my heart to end things with him, especially since I couldn’t give him a reason, other than that it just wasn’t right. But I thank God for the courage to do so because outside of me learning and growing from that situation — he actually met and married his wife about a year later.

      I’m really glad you find the series interesting and I look forward to hearing your thoughts on all that’s to come!

    • Jay
      April 1, 2015

      Thank you for listening Autumn and sharing your perspective. God bless you!

    • LadyRo46
      April 1, 2015

      Thanks for listening and sharing you thoughts and experiences with us Autumn

  • Jay
    April 1, 2015

    Ariel, Ces & Ro…I appreciate you all taking the time out to respond to the amazing comments you received from Destiny and Autumn.

    Thank you all so much for that and God bless you!

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