58: Why Some People are Too Lazy to Date Offline

Do you know someone who you consider a “lazy dater”?


If so, you’ll want to share this with them.


We will be exploring how some people have become “lazy daters” and how they can reverse the effects.


If you would like to discover how to properly balance online and offline interactions, you must listen to the latest podcast episode, ‘Why Some People are Too Lazy to Date Offline’:



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Episode Title: Why Some People are Too Lazy to Date Offline


Guests: NadiaFollow Her on Twitter


Music: Tasha Page-Lockhart – Best Work



  • A lot of people who online date are looking for a relationship, but they are not really looking for someone who can help them complete their purpose.” – Nadia


  • “A lot of online dating is just a front for sex.” – Nadia


  • “Most of our society is champions at hiding.” – Nadia


Key Lessons:

  • The impact social media and online dating has had on the current dating scene
  • How to develop a balance between meeting people in person and online
  • How to decrease online interactions and increase offline interactions


Hot Topics & Takeaways:

  • How social media has removed the element of chase from dating
  • The differing perspectives of men and women towards online dating
  • The things people miss out on by choosing to primarily date online


Dangers and Difficulties:

  • Nadia discusses the addictive nature of social media
  • The role fear plays in some people’s avoidance of in-person interactions
  • The double-edged sword of online dating


Experience is the Best Teacher:

  •  Nadia explains why daters in 2014 are lazy
  • Nadia explains why she has no plans on dating online again


Fun Times & Stories

  • Nadia tells how she had to learn the hard way how to identify a man of true character
  • The one question that Nadia cannot stand for a man to ask her


Hold Yourself Accountable:

Don’t allow your fear to hinder you from potentially great experiences.


Apply the Principles:

“For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.”

2 Timothy 1:7 (KJV)


Take Action Now:

  1. Acknowledge the fear that you may have of meeting and interacting with people offline.
  2. Decide to memorize and recite 2 Timothy 1:7 everyday.
  3. Pray each day and ask God for strength, guidance and the ability to overcome your fears
  4. Challenge yourself to make at least one new offline interaction each month


Show Some Love:

Please leave me a comment or a private message answering the following questions:

Do you believe that daters in 2014 are lazy and afraid of meeting people offline?


  • Autumn
    November 1, 2014

    No. I don’t think people are lazy. They are busy and hard at work on social media! But it’s just a different time, esp. for the under 40 set. I went to four Halloween parties this year! So I was definitely trying to meet folks, male or female, offline. But even at the party a lot of people were just looking at their phones. At one party, me and the people I was hanging out with just took photos of ourselves in our costumes! I do think one of the fun parts of the party was posting the pics!

    So this is how we live right now. I think people are just out of the habit of interacting with one another. It’s a symptom of something bigger. Even in person people just don’t get invested in people they don’t know well.

    Interesting what Nadia says about purpose. I have to admit I do live my life with purpose and the right man has not just came along. I honestly think if I don’t look I could happily go years without finding the right person. I really have to be open to it. I think it’s also about screening. I think you can find the time wasters and people who only want sex in offline and online dating. You just have to use your instincts. Emotionally unavailable people are offline too.

    Online dating is just a tool to meet people. The goal of it is a first date. That’s it. Once you meet the person things start there and go back to interacting in person. It’s no substitute for getting to knowing a person in person which has to happen. Sometimes you do find someone online that you click with. It’s the exception rather than the rule.

    • Jay
      November 2, 2014

      I’m so glad you had fun getting your party on and taking pics Autumn! That’s great!

      I agree that the lack of interaction is the result of a bigger issue too. I don’t believe the root is online dating. I believe it has more to do with the expansion and continued evolution of technology.

      Yes, we must discern who people are both online and offline. There is no doubt about that.

      Thank you so much for listening and sharing your thoughts Autumn. I truly appreciate that!

  • Destiny's Truth
    November 3, 2014

    No. I believe most people are busy and are using current methods to broaden their pool. However, there are some people who are hiding behind anonymity because they are afraid of rejection or the unknown. I love Nadia’s statement, “…champions at hiding”. So many people are hiding from who they really are feel like they will not be accepted because they lack self-love. Great discussion. Nadia is a very knowledgeable individual and I truly enjoyed her sharing insight with us all.

    • Jay
      November 6, 2014

      Yes, busyness does play a role. I also agree that some people do hide behind anonymity too. The fear of rejection is no joke.

      “So many people are hiding from who they really are feel like they will not be accepted because they lack self-love.”

      That statement is so true. I couldn’t agree with you more Destiny!

      Thank you so much for listening and for the kinds words you had for Nadia.

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