632: Why Your Past Does Not Define You (Part 1)


Why Your Past Does Not Define You (Part 1)In this episode, Jay is joined by Coco Gayle to address the question: What are the dangers of being stuck in the past?





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Episode Title: Why Your Past Does Not Define You (Part 1)


Guest: Coco GayleFollow Her on Twitter


Question We Address and Answer:

  • What are the dangers of being stuck in the past?


Key Lessons and Takeaways:

  • Why a lot of people tend to live in their past.
  • The reason some people struggle with viewing their past as something that can propel them into the future.
  • The value in being able to make peace with our past.
  • How some people may try to use our past to hurt us.



  • Coco shares how important it was for her to make peace with her past.



  • And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.Romans 8:28 (NIV)


  • Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.2 Corinthians 5:17 (NKJV)


  • Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.Matthew 7:1-2 (NIV)


  • For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.John 3:16 (NIV)


  • For to us a child is born,
        to us a son is given,
        and the government will be on his shoulders.
    And he will be called
        Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God,
        Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.Isaiah 9:6 (NIV)


Hold Yourself Accountable:

  • Acknowledge your past and seek God’s help to make peace with your past.


Apply the Kingdom Principle:

  • When Jesus saw him lying there and learned that he had been in this condition for a long time, he asked him, “Do you want to get well?”John 5:6 (NIV)


Take Action Now:

  • Go before God acknowledge your past, ask for forgiveness, accept His forgiveness and trust that He can make peace with your past.


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  • Tonia Shalel
    February 24, 2017

    I loved Part 1! Coco your transparency is so refreshing! I didn’t know this part of your story! What a testimony. You know I love your Instagram motivational minutes, they keep me going, Jay as always great show!!!. (-: Tonia Shalel

    • Jay
      February 28, 2017

      Hey Tonia!!!

      YES!!! Coco is amazing!!! Her transparency is so refreshing and real!

      I appreciate her sharing all that she did and I am so glad that you enjoyed the discussion.

      Thank you for listening and I pray that God continues to bless you!

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