7: I’m Single…Not a Lesbian!


What would you do if someone made a ridiculous accusation about you?


Would you be at a loss for words?


Would you snap?


In the premiere episode of the Listen Up Ladies podcast series, I address the concerns of a woman who found herself in such a situation.


She’s been single for over two years…


She has a close female friend who she hangs out with often…


Now based on those two things alone, her family and friends think that she is a lesbian.


Not only do I provide this young lady with some insight on how to handle this situation, but I also have a discussion with Ty to address things from a woman’s perspective.


Enjoy the podcast episode and be sure to leave a comment below sharing your insight and take on this situation.



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Episode Title: I’m Single…Not a Lesbian!


Guest: TyFollow her on Twitter


Music: Tamar Braxton – Pieces



“There is no way in hell my best friend and I, even on a bad day or after a break up, would be laid up in a fetal position…that’s like NEVER gonna happen!” – Ty


“When you can just change the way you do things, like the flip of a light switch, it makes me question how good you are at making other decisions in your life.” – Jay


“You don’t have to justify the reason you’re single.” – Ty


Key Takeaways & Lessons:

  • It takes strength to be single long-term
  • Best friends do not equal lesbians
  • If you’re not homosexual, it’s not a label you want placed on you
  • ‘Switching lanes’ should not be the first assumption made about a person who has been single for a long period of time
  • Don’t let what other people say and think effect you…it won’t be easy, but it must be done


Insight & Action Steps:

  1. Know who you are
  2. Seek God for strength
  3. Address the false accusations when necessary and ignore them when they aren’t worth addressing
  4. Express how you feel about people jumping to conclusions and making false accusations about you
  5. Do what makes you happy – don’t avoid your friend to who’s been there for you based on what other people may say or think


Apply the Principles:

“My soul is weary with sorrow; strengthen me according to your word.” Psalm 119:28(NIV)


Call to Action:

  • Leave a comment below sharing your insight and take on this situation or share a similar experience that you may have had.

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  • brittneyhood
    May 16, 2014

    I have this same issue. The bizarre thing about me was that a family member called me to ask me if I was a lesbian, because her husband hadn’t seen me bring a man around. REALLY? Why is he worried about me and who I’m dating? What’s even crazier is that I had brought my boyfriend to their wedding a year earlier. I am just sick of some people assuming, and you know what they say about those who assume. Good day!

    • Jay
      May 16, 2014

      Yo! That’s crazy Brittney!

      Who is he to be questioning your relationship status…and definitely your sexuality?!

      He was way OUT OF BOUNDS!!!

      See, that just goes to show you how people are so quick to jump to conclusions and make wild accusations.

      I’m with you, I’m sick of people assuming too. They need to read The Four Agreements and get their life! LOL!

      Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I appreciate it more than you know!

    • emilyjanegilbert
      May 16, 2014

      SERIOUSLY – why is he worried about what you’re doing!? He needs to be focused on HIS relationship with HIS wife.

      • brittneyhood
        May 17, 2014

        Same thing I said. Lol.

      • Jay
        May 17, 2014


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