Being a Gentleman is OVERRATED!

Not too long ago, I had a real epiphalation!

 

You know, the sexy love child of Epiphany and Revelation.

 

The gem that was dropped on me was that being a gentleman is OVERRATED.

 

The instant it hit me I knew I was on to something.

 

I started replaying images and experiences from my past and everything started to make sense.

 

I’d seriously fallen down a rabbit hole and now I was in a panic to get out.

 

I Heard What Mama Said, But I Wasn’t Listening

 

Like many men, I learned from my mother that a real man is supposed to treat women with respect and be a gentleman.

 

Unfortunately, when she told me that, I simply wasn’t listening closely enough.

 

What I heard instead was, “A gentleman puts women first, always.

 

Being the type of person I was then, I sadly took that misinterpretation to heart.

 

For a large chunk of my life I went through life believing that women should always go above me and come before me.

 

I hate to admit it, but I was seriously putting women up on a pedestal.

 

Hold on ladies!

 

Allow me to explain.

 

I’m not saying there is anything wrong with respecting and valuing a woman.

 

In fact, I believe ALL men should do that.

 

The issue I have is with men, such as my former self, allowing other people to outrank and take priority over themselves.

 

That’s a huge mistake!

 

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2 Comments
  • singlemomsmile1
    June 19, 2014

    Awesomely written my friend. I knew a guy like this once. He was a great guy but he put women before himself. There was an air of desperation about him and I must admit it turned me off. I guess this is how men feel when they encounter women like this.

    • Jay
      June 19, 2014

      You’re so kind Ariel. Thank you for taking the time out to read it.

      Yes, there is definitely a danger to placing other people above ourselves. In a sense, it gives them control over us…and that’s definitely not a good thing.

      Thanks again for sharing your thoughts and all of your continued support! It is truly a blessing and a Godsend to me!

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