Not too long ago, I had a real epiphalation!
You know, the sexy love child of Epiphany and Revelation.
The gem that was dropped on me was that being a gentleman is OVERRATED.
The instant it hit me I knew I was on to something.
I started replaying images and experiences from my past and everything started to make sense.
I’d seriously fallen down a rabbit hole and now I was in a panic to get out.
I Heard What Mama Said, But I Wasn’t Listening
Like many men, I learned from my mother that a real man is supposed to treat women with respect and be a gentleman.
Unfortunately, when she told me that, I simply wasn’t listening closely enough.
What I heard instead was, “A gentleman puts women first, always.”
Being the type of person I was then, I sadly took that misinterpretation to heart.
For a large chunk of my life I went through life believing that women should always go above me and come before me.
I hate to admit it, but I was seriously putting women up on a pedestal.
Hold on ladies!
Allow me to explain.
I’m not saying there is anything wrong with respecting and valuing a woman.
In fact, I believe ALL men should do that.
The issue I have is with men, such as my former self, allowing other people to outrank and take priority over themselves.
That’s a huge mistake!