92: How to Break Free From Abusive Relationships

No one deserves to be in an abusive relationship.


Thankfully, there are ways to break free from them.


Discover what they are TODAY!


In the latest podcast episode, I am joined by Ginger and Marla Martenson to discuss how women can break free from abusive relationships.






Episode Title: How to Break Free From Abusive Relationships


Guests: GingerFollow Her on TwitterMarla MartensonFollow Her on Twitter


Check out Marla’s book, Diary of a Beverly Hills Matchmaker


Music: Raheem DeVaughn – Black and Blue



  • I think a lot of women find themselves in abusive relationships because they grew up never really knowing what a healthy relationship looks like.” – Ginger


  • “You have to take care of you first and make yourself a priority.” – Marla Martenson


Key Lesson:

  • The definition of an abusive relationship
  • Steps women can take to break free from abusive relationships
  • How women can embrace self-love
  • How women can take the pain they have experienced and use it to their benefit


Hot Topics & Takeaways:

  • Marla explains the importance of slowing things down initially to truly get to know someone
  • Warning signs that women can look for that may indicate that a relationship has the tendency to be unhealthy or that a man may be prone to abuse
  • The impact that unresolved abuse issues can have on a woman after she’s broken free from an unhealthy relationship


Experience is the Best Teacher:

  • Marla opens up about her experience of being in a marriage with a verbally abusive man


Hold Yourself Accountable:

Know that you deserve to be loved and treated kindly.


Apply the Kingdom Principles:

“The godly are showered with blessings; the words of the wicked conceal violent intentions.” Proverbs 10:6 (NLT)


Take Action Now:

  1. Make a decision to leave an abusive relationship.
  2. Discover and learn how valuable you are by reading God’s Word.
  3. Set standards for how others must treat you.
  4. Decide to only enter a relationship with someone who has shown you that they love you and will treat you right.


  • Renee B
    February 21, 2015

    This was a great and informative conversation. I really loved the takeaways at the end.

    • Jay
      February 22, 2015

      Thank you so much for taking the time out to listen Renee. I truly appreciate that.

      I am so happy that you enjoyed the discussion and found value in the takeaways too.

      I can’t wait until the upcoming episode you will be featured on is released. I know it’s going to be a great one!

      Thanks for swinging by and sharing your thoughts too. You’ll definitely be getting a shout out on an upcoming episode!

      God bless you!

  • naomi
    February 21, 2015

    I really found this conversation powerful it revealed to me about my own relationship and it’s unhealthiness at the time. Never realized until now that it was a form of abuse just thought it was a bad relationship. But once again powerful message. And thanks Jay for having conservatives like this just wish I knew this back then instead of now.

    • Jay
      February 22, 2015

      Hey Naomi! It means so much to me that you listened to this episode and shared your personal experiences too.

      That’s great that you were able to identify some areas where you can improve in your relationship. Relationship improvement is a great thing, especially when it ensures that you will be treated with the love and respect that you truly deserve.

      I know it may seem like you’re receiving these insights “late”, but I believe that God is always on time, even with the insights and knowledge that we need to get us through life. I am so grateful that you are receiving what’s being shared and that it’s really benefiting you.

      Thank you so much for your continued support and prepare to receive a shout out on an upcoming episode.

      God bless you!

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