33: Why You Must Continue Dating After Marriage

Marriage can get boring, right?


Thankfully, it doesn’t have to stay that way!


By continuing to date after marriage, couples can keep things fun, exciting and learn new things about each other.


If you would like to know just how beneficial dating after marriage can be to both you and your partner, you must listen to the latest podcast episode, ‘Why You Must Continue Dating After Marriage’:



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Episode Title: Why You Must Continue Dating After Marriage


Guests: Tony DiLorenzoFollow Him on TwitterAlisa DiLorenzoFollow Her on Twitter


Click here to check out their book, Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage


Click here to check out their podcast, ONE Extraordinary Marriage


Music: Vivian Green – Get Right Back to My Baby



  • You have to be INTENTIONAL in your marriage.” – Tony DiLorenzo


  • “It’s not written in stone anywhere that a date is dinner and a movie.” – Alisa DiLorenzo


  • “When your spouse sees you more interested in your phone, than you are in them, it tells them where they are in your priority list.” – Alisa DiLorenzo


  • “It’s an amazing gift, to give your spouse a planned date.” – Alisa DiLorenzo


  • “Men and husbands, it’s time for you to take the lead, step it up and make it happen, when it comes to planning dates, instead of putting it all on her plate.” – Tony DiLorenzo


  • “When you get out of your comfort zone and try something that your spouse loves, you never know what you’re going to discover about yourself in that experience.” – Alisa DiLorenzo


Key Lessons:

  • Why getting out of the box and doing new things with your partner is a MUST
  • The importance of breaking your routine to spend time with and further develop your relationship with your partner
  • Tony explains how a “Top 10” list can benefit you and your partner too


Hot Topics & Takeaways:

  • Alisa explains how exploring the city where you live can enable you and your partner to connect on a deeper level
  • How to schedule date nights without them becoming routine or boring
  • Find out what Tony & Alisa’s “Taking the Lead” technique is and how it can transform your dating experiences
  • Alisa and Tony provide some really cool and unique date ideas


Dangers & Difficulties

  • Why you must fight the urge to pull out your phone during dates with your partner


Experience is the Best Teacher:

  • Tony shares how he and Alisa transitioned from just existing in their marriage to being intentional


Fun Times & Stories:

  • Tony gives us the rundown on the amazing birthday getaway he planned for Alisa and how ‘mini-dates’ made the experience memorable


Hold Yourself Accountable:

Make the effort to have fun and develop a closer bond with your partner.


Apply the Principles:

“Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.’” Colossians 3:19 (ESV)


“However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” Ephesians 5:33 (ESV)


Take Action Now:

  1. Place your partners needs above your own.
  2. Invest time into learning what your partner enjoys.
  3. Invest time into planning a date.
  4. Make the evening about pleasing your partner.


Show Some Love:

Please leave me a comment or a private message answering the following question:

What is something you’ve never done on a date that you would like to do?

  • Destiny's Truth
    August 8, 2014

    Jay, this was another great classic podcast that shines and highlights the absolute beauty and wonder of marriage. Alisa and Tony’s love and commitment to one another is so obvious. Their language is so connected to each other and it was such a blissful experience for me as a single woman to have such a positive encounter as it relates to marriage. So many individuals have such an adverse view on marriage and relationships, but this couple is proof that marriage can REALLY be GREAT! I thank your guest for sharing some much advise about keeping a marriage refresh and renewed and this type of focus begins in a relationship ordered and directed by God. They truly make me want to meet someone and share my life in such a very special way. This was another time you stepped up the level of your podcast to sincerely illuminate the best of the best. I thank your guest and I thank you Jay. I plan to visit their website and read the materials listed in the show notes. Keep this great quality content coming to aid us in believing and receiving great and lasting relationships. I am expecting Real Love too.

    • Jay
      August 11, 2014

      Yes, Tony and Alisa are so genuine and amazing! It was such a pleasure to have had the opportunity to have this discussion with them.

      I agree, when marriage is done the RIGHT way, in accordance with God’s will and purpose, it is really great!

      I’m so glad that you enjoyed the discussion and I would greatly appreciate it if you checked out their website and content. It’s really beneficial!

  • Destiny's Truth
    August 8, 2014

    Tony and Alisa having established date nights and letting their children see them put each other first in the family unit, gives their children an example and positive model to pattern their future relationships and ultimately their marriage after. What a priceless legacy to give your offspring. There were so many more tips, but this one was the most impacting to me.

    • Jay
      August 11, 2014

      Yes, that is such an amazing example for their children. This is definitely something more parents should consider doing. It will go a long way, in terms of how children view and respect the institute and union of marriage.

  • Autumn
    August 9, 2014

    Best were the ideas for different dates. After so many years, I was impressed with their creativity. I also like the humility in your guests, they weren’t this creative in the first six years!

    I’d like to go on a helicopter ride around my city. Or a picnic. I haven’t had a date like that for either idea. It’s true, it doesn’t have to be expensive. I’d just love for a guy to plan the little details (like the food and blanket for a picnic) that make stuff special.

    • Jay
      August 11, 2014

      Yes, they were very honest and transparent. You know I always enjoy and respect that.

      Oooow a helicopter ride around the city sounds like so much fun. I’d never thought of that before you mentioned it. Gotta add it to the list. Thanks Autumn!

      The thought is truly what counts.

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