91: Changing the Fairytale of What it Means to be a Real Woman

What does it mean to be a “Real Woman”?


Nearly every woman has her own fairytale of what it means…


But it’s time for many of those fairytales to change!


In the latest podcast episode, I am joined by Coach Rori and Cocoa to explore the fairytales they were taught growing up and to discuss why it’s time for some women to change their personal fairytale of what it means to be a real woman.






Episode Title: Changing the Fairytale of What it Means to be a Real Woman


Guests: Coach RoriFollow Her on Twitter * CocoaFollow Her on Twitter


Music: BJ the Chicago Kid – Soul of a Woman



  • We should teach our girls what to expect from a man and how to expect a fairytale.” – Cocoa


  • “In my household, I did see how a woman is supposed to love a man and how a man is supposed to love a woman.” – Coach Rori


  • “When you keep watching garbage, you become garbage.” – Coach Rori


  • “If you don’t know who you are there’s no way you can truly align yourself with another person.” – Jay Mayo


Key Lesson:

  • How each woman’s fairytale can differ
  • The importance of young girls and women being taught what it truly takes to be a woman


Hot Topics & Takeaways:

  • Is the fairytale all fiction or is there some accuracy to it?
  • Where the majority of women develop their fairytale of what it means to be a woman
  • Cocoa and Coach Rori explain how what girls today view as a real woman has shifted from Claire Huxtable to reality TV housewives


Experience is the Best Teacher:

  • Cocoa and Coach Rori both share the fairytale they were taught growing up about what it means to be a woman
  • Cocoa confesses that she may have ‘strong woman syndrome’ and how it impacts her relationships
  • Coach Rori shares how challenging it was to find the love she saw displayed in her household between her parents


Hold Yourself Accountable:

Realize that only you can define who you are.


Apply the Kingdom Principles:

“Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.” Proverbs 4:23 (ESV)


Take Action Now:

  1. Seek God to truly discover who you are.
  2. Love yourself first and foremost.
  3. Don’t compromise your character for anyone or anything.
  4. Seek positive role models and mentors.
  5. Read books that will continue to encourage you and positively impact your self-image.


1 Comment
  • Destiny's Truth
    February 21, 2015

    Jay, I enjoyed the podcast with Coach Rori and Cocoa because it reflected a balance and prospective from two very different life experiences. It allows women that had the “fairytale” modeled before them to affirm that so called “fairytale” family and love does exist and can be a standard they can strive to achieve in their own lives. Also, Coach Rori made it very clear that just because you know what a good relationship looks like it does not mean it will be easy to find it yourself– life will always have it’s challenges. Cocoa opened the door of hope to women who have been very independent and less respectful to men initially, but have learned through experience and knowledge to do better, be better and enable themselves to receive the best.

    This was a great show and I am believing that more people that need this wisdom, knowledge and understanding as it relates to relationships will find the Right to R.E.A.L. Love community and share these wonderful and God-inspired messages being provided. Remember to continue to be faithful with little and God will reward you openly in due time with much. Keep on doing good. God bless you Jay and thanks to Coach Rori and Cocoa for taking the time to share their life experiences to enrich and help others.

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