100: Why Men Abandon Women and Relationships

Why Men Abandon Women and RelationshipsHow can men just walk away from a relationship?


Do they lack feelings? Did they ever care?


Those are just a few of the questions that will be answered today.


It’s no secret that a lot of women have come to believe that men completely lack emotions.


I honestly can’t knock them, especially when you consider the way some men behave nowadays.


I firmly believe that men need to be held accountable for their actions (as do women).


Therefore, I felt it was time to finally address one of the biggest elephants in the room with men and women…


The reason why men abandon women and relationships.


Far too many men have been adopting what I like to term “The Hollow Man” approach.


They are in a woman’s life one day and completely gone the next.


That type of behavior is unacceptable and needs to stop.


Now don’t think I’m trying to sound holier-than-thou. I’m far from perfect and I know it.


In fact, I’ve pulled a Hollow Man before. I’m not proud of it, but it’s the truth.


I’m not afraid to be open and honest about my flaws, faults and this pressing issue.


Thankfully, my latest guest on the podcast, Cornelius Lindsey, is a man of honor, integrity and transparency too.


We both recently discussed, at length, why men find the need to abandon women and how they can seemingly leave a relationship so easily and without even telling a woman why.


This is a discussion that you are going to enjoy and learn so much from. Enjoy!



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Episode Title: Why Men Abandon Women and Relationships


Guests: Cornelius LindseyFollow Him on Twitter


Music: Lyfe Jennings – Goodbye



  • It’s not that we don’t have feelings and emotions, it’s just that we express them differently.” – Cornelius Lindsey


  • “A lot of times men build walls in places where we should’ve built a bridge and in many places we build a bridge where we should’ve built a wall.” – Cornelius Lindsey


  • “When men become fearful or when they are just in habitual sin…they run.” – Cornelius Lindsey


  • “Many men just don’t know how to be men.” – Cornelius Lindsey


  • “The concept of relationship can seem foreign to a man.” – Cornelius Lindsey


  • “Love is not something you fall into. It’s something you grow in.” – Cornelius Lindsey


Key Lesson:

  • The importance of being able to understand a man’s words and his actions
  • Why men suppress their emotions and feelings
  • Why self-accountability is one of the major things a man needs in his life
  • Things women don’t know about how men think and process relationships
  • The lowdown on the infamous Hollow Man
  • The four words women should never say to a man
  • Cornelius explains how a man or woman’s relationship with God can tell you a lot about them
  • How men can properly end and respectfully leave relationships


Hot Topics & Takeaways:

  • Differences in the way men and women approach ending a relationship
  • How men decide on making decisions based on feelings or logic
  • Hints and clues men drop when they are preparing to leave a relationship
  • How men can be physically present in a relationship but mentally checked out
  • How some men can bring themselves to abandon a woman they are in a relationship with and their children
  • The difference in the value men and women place on relationships


Danger & Difficulties:

  • The danger of men using silence as a way to convey anger
  • How ignorance and a lacking desire to learn plagues many men in our society


Experience is the Best Teacher:

  • Cornelius opens up about the ways he mistreated women in his past
  • Cornelius explains how challenging the first two years of his marriage was due to his behavior towards his wife
  • Cornelius and Jay admit that they were both once cowards who feared expressing their true feelings to women


Hold Yourself Accountable:

Men: Decide not to be a coward and not to hide your feelings.

Women: Decide to communicate with men in a manner that will not cause them to become defensive.


Apply the Principles:

“Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom. And in all your getting, get understanding.” Proverbs 4:7 (NKJV)


Take Action Now:

  1. Learn what it means to truly be a man and learn how men and women communicate.
  2. Read three books that will help you gain a better understanding of both men and women:
    1. Understanding the Purpose and Power of Men by Dr. Myles Munroe
    2. Understanding the Purpose and Power of Woman by Dr. Myles Munroe
    3. So, You Want to be a Man?: What Preachers Don’t Preach and Fathers Don’t Teach By Cornelius Lindsey
  3. Men: Don’t run away and don’t use your silence as a weapon. Stand your ground and honestly and verbally convey how you feel.
  4. Women: Don’t anticipate the worse and open both your eyes and your ears. Pray and expect the best in men, as well as watch what they do and listen to what they say.


Show Some Love:

Please leave me a comment or a private message answering the following question:

Why do YOU think some men abandon women and relationships?



  • Destiny's Truth
    March 21, 2015

    Congratulations Jay on Episode #100!!!! To God Be The Glory! This episode was so eye opening and hearing this topic discussed by men was very empowering. I learned some very insightful things and Cornelius Lindsey truly brought it. His openness and honesty about his personal experience and how men can become more courageous by sharing their feelings and struggles when faced with crucial issues in relationships, rather than running and hiding. Thanks Cornelius and Jay for such a powerful and intelligent exploration of a very intense and painful matter than many women have suffered through without clarity. I look forward to reading the suggested books that your guest wrote and that you recommended. This is truly a place that Kingdom citizens can learn a godly approach to our relationship issues, with such practical and wise action steps. How I wish this platform was available when I was a young Christian. That statement about building walls and bridges, was so profound.

    • Jay
      April 1, 2015

      Oh yeah!!! All the credit goes to God! It would not be possible without Him!

      I am so happy that you enjoyed this episode and I appreciate your support so much!!!

      Yes, that was a very profound statement. I hope you enjoy the books.

      God bless you!

  • LadyRo46
    March 23, 2015

    Congratulations on your 100th and what a POWERFUL episode it was! The discussion with Pastor Lindsey was eye-opening. I loved his candor. I listened to this one 2x and saved it in the archive for future reference. I will definitely be reading these books.

    • Jay
      April 1, 2015

      Awww thank you so much Ro! You have been there from the beginning and that means a lot to me.

      Wow! I am so happy to hear how much you enjoyed this discussion and I hope you enjoy reading the books too.

      Thanks for all of your continued support!

  • Renatha
    March 26, 2015

    Hollow Man
    Wow 100th episode can you believe it that’s awesome Jay how do you feel about that? Like I always say you are doing such an awesome job. Intense this podcast was but very informative. I have experienced the hollow man from the past and maybe that’s why I am the way I am now. I agree when Cornelius said that men and women communicate differently. Dropping several hints lol man that’s so true. I believe men have feelings but I think they express it differently through the actions yes yes yes I agree.  I never got the silence treatment. I feel like  this a little bit because I have been around it from the past. I never really looked at it like that but we get hurt n frustrated and we don’t like to deal with things so if we did what a man does then where would we be in love. Cornelius thank you for being open and honesty. Wow when Cornelius said this man has built this wall and built a bridge with another women that was a eye opener for me because  it so true that this has happened. Holding your self accountable JAY thank you for saying that. I wish more men would do that. I agree too that some men don’t know how to express n communicate towards a women maybe because they  have probably never seen it. Wow more men need to hear this podcast on full blast.  So you want to be a man wow I would want to purchase that book sounds interesting. Yes I agree that having a booming career can cause turmoil in the relationship or marriage. Jay this episode was very helpful I learned alot as a women about the hollowman. Thanks and God Bless

    • Jay
      April 1, 2015

      I honestly still can’t believe it! It’s all God’s doing. 100 episodes in under a year is insane!!!

      I am thrilled to hear about all of the insights you took away from this discussion Renatha. I truly thank God for that!

      I agree that more men and women need to hear the things that were shared during the discussion. I believe it can be very beneficial to them.

      Thank you for your continued support and God bless you too!

  • Don
    March 30, 2015

    Congrats on your 100th episode. Quality discussion, as usual.

    Where Pastor Cornelius Lindsey spoke of the man having dropped several clues, that’s definitely the truth. I co-sign the fact. I reflect upon past situations where that man was me and I cannot believe I had the nerves, acted extremely immaturely at ending relationships. But I did. And now I see why they hated me with such passion. Smh.

    If I had to say, I believe my actions transpired in that particular manner out of not wanting to be “talked out of my decision.” I contemplated whether the suppression aspect (as you stated) played a part or the process or even ignorance and I need more time to form a definite answer. But of course each are possible. I was a jerk.

    As I’ve admitted in past comments, it took for the “walking away” to be done to me before I understood the heartache I caused those women. And for the most part, I’ve been fortunate to apologize and have my apologies accepted by those three women (I hadn’t apologize to the fourth woman but I’m sure I will if I see her again).

    All in all, the discussion was in-depth and A-1 and very inspiring in the sense of how it encouraged me to reflect upon past behavior I’ve improved upon in the present. Lyfe Jennings song was the perfect ending credit. Keep up the good work. God bless.

    • Jay
      April 1, 2015

      Thank you so much Don. I appreciate you listening and taking the time out to swing by and leave a comment.

      I really like that you took time to reflect on yourself and your own experiences. Far too often, we avoid such necessary self examination. However, I believe that’s one of the best ways to learn about ourselves and improve in the areas that we need to approve.

      Thank you for doing that and being honest with yourself and willing to share with me and others what you discovered.

      Your continued support means the world to me bro. Thank you and God bless you!

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