80: How to Avoid Being Pressured Into Dating

How to Avoid Being Pressured Into Dating

Have you ever been pressured into dating?


If so, you’re not alone.


Thankfully, TODAY you can find out how to avoid that happening again.


Obviously, I cannot guarantee you that no one will ever try to pressure you into dating ever again.


BUT I can provide you with some insights and tips on how to handle that pressure in a constructive and respectful manner.


If you’re interested in learning how to properly deal with the pressure to date, start by listening to the latest podcast, featuring Brooks J. Young and Makeda Vaughn. Enjoy!






Episode Title: How to Avoid Being Pressured Into Dating


Guests: Brooks J. YoungFollow Her on Twitter * Makeda VaughnFollow Her on Twitter


Music: Dead Prez – The Beauty Within



  • Don’t ever feel pressured to do something you don’t want to do.” – Brooks J. Young


  • “Mostly when people start picking you apart it’s because they’re not happy with themselves, but they like what you have.” – Brooks J. Young


Key Lessons:

  • The importance of developing self-esteem, self-love and being secure in who you are
  • Signs that someone is pressuring you into dating
  • How becoming active in your community or helping others can keep you from focusing on whether or not you’re dating


Hot Topics & Takeaways:

  • How being pressured into dating can negatively impact your journey towards getting to know yourself better
  • Makeda and Brooks explain how having natural hair has resulted in pressure to date from their mothers and other family members


Dangers & Difficulties:

  • The danger of placing pressure on yourself to date


Experience is the Best Teacher:

  • Brooks and Makeda share their personal experiences of dealing with pressure to date
  • Makeda let’s all family and friends know why they need to stop with the awkward impromptu hookups


Hold Yourself Accountable:

Do not allow yourself to be pressured into doing something you don’t want to do.


Apply the Kingdom Principles:

“For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.” Galatians 1:10 (ESV)


Take Action Now:

  1. Become active in your community or find a way to occupy yourself by helping others.
  2. Write a short script on how you’ll respond when people ask you about being single, they attempt to pressure you into dating or try to randomly hook you up.


  • Jay
    January 10, 2015

    Have you ever been pressured into dating? If so, tell me about it…

  • Aisha
    June 9, 2020

    Yes and people I talked to about it wasn’t good friends. I asked them about the guy that got mad when I turned him down. They said “well you said you didn’t want them to talk to you again” or “ you women should stop caring about people feeling” to “ we don’t you go Facebook”. And he kept pressuring me saying “ but I’ll make a good boyfriend” There was actually someone else I was interested in on Facebook that I was talking to. And I don’t regret not giving someone I don’t have feelings for the time of day. Maybe I’ll never be a wife. And I’ll still be ok with that. I can enjoy my freedom and not raising children. Or maybe I will. It’s so frustrating being bullied into going out of my way for someone I’m not in love with and having people not emphasizing that it isn’t meant to be.

  • Yahnathan J. Immanuel
    June 16, 2020

    Thank you so much for sharing your experience Aisha. I can’t begin to imagine how frustrating it must be to be put in that situation. Continue to do what is best for you. That is the key.

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