79: Valuable Lessons Learned From Exes

Lessons Learned From Exes

What do men and women think about the lessons learned from exes?


Do they think differently?


Do they think the same?


What do you think?


Don’t think too hard about it, because the answer awaits you.


Listen to the latest episode of The Way We Think and find out right now whether men and women think differently or the same about the lessons learned from exes.



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Episode Title: Valuable Lessons Learned From Exes


The Guests:



  • “Leave the past in the past. There is a reason that it ended.” – Ashley Franklin


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Please leave a comment or a private message answering the following question:

What is the most valuable lesson YOU have learned from an ex?


  • Jay
    January 5, 2015

    QUESTION: What is the most valuable lesson YOU have learned from an ex?

  • naomi
    January 5, 2015

    I learned not to settle. To go with your gut feeling about the person and not let PEOPLE tell you different. That was the main reason I was in my last relationship because I let other people con me into thinking I should be with that person knowing that I didn’t even like him enough to even consider a relationship. Then I tricked myself into thinking maybe I do like this person and want to be with him. And I settled. And honestly started to decline. I let myself forget about me and most importantly God and our relationship. But thank the Lord I eventually ended that relationship and I learned soooo many things lol but the most important was to put God first in my relationship. And I heard this quote which is excellent “I want to be so lost in God that he has to go through God to find me.” And if you can’t respect God, yourself and others how do I expect you to respect me in a relationship?

    • Jay
      January 6, 2015

      Wow! That is such a valuable lessons Naomi.

      Settling for less than we are worth and deserve, as well as allowing others to influence our decisions can lead us into some less than favorable situations.

      Those are definitely lessons that we all must learn…and the sooner the better.

      I am so happy to hear that you were able to find yourself out of a relationship that you had no desire to be in. It’s a blessing that you are in a much better place now.

      It’s also great that you took so many valuable lessons away from that experience too. We can always find the good in a situation, especially if we look hard enough.

      That is an AMAZING quote!!! That’s real talk!!!

      That question you posed is the ONE! That is a question we should all ask someone we are seriously interested in…then we should answer it ourselves too.

      Thank you so much Naomi for not only listening to the podcast, but taking the time out to share your thoughts and the valuable lesson that you learned from your ex. I appreciate that more than you know!

      You can definitely expect to receive a shout out on an upcoming podcast episode.

      God bless you and thanks a lot for all of your continued love and support!

  • A Franklin
    January 8, 2015

    Do you ever see a person you dated way back when, on FB & how they’re doing now & think “Whoo!! I dodged a bullet there??” Lol! 🙂

    • Jay
      January 9, 2015

      That’s real Ashley. I’ve been there and done that before too. LOL!

  • Sonia
    January 12, 2015

    I have learned that when they show you who they are to BELIEVE them. My ex did not have a relationship with his family. He told me he loved his parents but he didn’t like them. He said growing up his parents always had something negative to say about his plans. For instance my ex wanted to be a police officer and was told “that he will never be able to do that because he gets into enough trouble on his own”. His past has passed into his current relationships. He would also encourage me to do good but always had a negative word to go along with it. For instance, he said you have a new job but you need to get rid of all your clothes and create a new wardrobe. I am happy with my wardrobe but he always wanted me to dress the way he wanted me to. I have worked in the office environment for 20 years and know how to dress. He would say he was joking when I responded to his comments. I love me so much that I had to let him go. We dated for about 6 months and I couldn’t take it anymore. My lesson is to be yourself and don’t let anyone change who you are. I am all about compromising but not to the point where I change who I am.

    • Jay
      January 14, 2015

      Hey Sonia!

      Thank you so much for taking the time out to not only listen to the podcast episode, but to share your thoughts and the most valuable lesson that you’ve learned from an ex. I greatly appreciate it.

      That is such a valuable lesson. I believe it’s so easy for us, from time to time, to only view a person from the perspective that we want to. Sadly, this can often lead us to ignore red flags that are staring us right in the face.

      Wow! That is so unfortunately that your ex had to experience that with his family and even sadder that he seemed to begin doing the same thing to you and likely other people too. That’s really unfortunate, especially if he is not aware that he is doing it.

      “I love me so much that I had to let him go.”

      I want to give you a BIG high five for that statement Sonia!

      YOU GO GYRL! *Martin voice*

      It is a joy to hear that you know your worth and you love yourself enough to put yourself first and even live a situation or relationship that isn’t beneficial to you.

      Many people find it difficult to do that, but I’m glad you were able to do what was truly best for you.

      “I am all about compromising but not to the point where I change who I am.”

      Precisely! There must be a limit and we must not lose ourselves in other people.

      Thank you so much for sharing your experience and leaving such an amazing comment. I greatly appreciate it.

      You can also expect to hear your name shouted out on an upcoming podcast episode, based on the fact that you took the time out to swing by and leave a comment.

      Thanks again and God bless you!

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