77: Why You MUST Seek God Before Seeking a Relationship

Do you desire to be in a relationship?


Have you sought God for His guidance?


If not, it is something that you MUST do.


Far too often we are more concerned with what we desire and neglect to seek God.


This can be one of the BIGGEST mistakes we make, especially when it comes to relationships.


Whether you realize it or not, God desires to be included in this aspect of your life too.


He knows you better than you may think. In fact, He likely knows you better than you know yourself.


Therefore, it is imperative that we seek God and include Him in our relationship development process.


In the latest podcast, Tina Collazo and I discuss at length why it is important for us to always seek God before seeking a mate or a relationship.






Episode Title: Why You MUST Seek God Before Seeking a Relationship


Guests: Tina CollazoFollow Her on Twitter


Music: GS – Best Friend



  • When the student is ready, the teacher appears.” – Tina Collazo


  • “We’re going to constantly be tested. We’re going to constantly be tempted. Being prepared is pertinent.” – Jay Mayo


  • “Two whole people equals double portion. That’s iron sharpening iron.” – Tina Collazo


  • “You must be firmly rooted in your convictions. If you don’t know what your convictions are or if you don’t know what foundation you’re standing upon, you already are setting yourself up for failure.” – Jay Mayo


Key Lessons:

  • The importance of always seeking God first in every aspect of our lives
  • How to find an accountability partner who you can trust and confide in
  • The value in seeking God regarding a mate or a relationship


Hot Topics & Takeaways:

  • The impact that music and television can have on our ability to live in a manner that is pleasing to God
  • Knowing what your triggers are and how to minimize temptations


Dangers & Difficulties:

  • The danger in neglecting to seek God before looking for a relationship or a mate
  • The challenges that many of us have with seeking God first
  • The challenge of transitioning from being a celibate single to being celibate in a relationship
  • The danger in believing that God will chose your mate


Experience is the Best Teacher:

  • Tina shares about her personal journey of purity and abstinence
  • Tina explains how valuable it has been for her to have an accountability partner along her walk with Jesus Christ
  • Tina discloses how beneficial it was to be in a relationship with someone who was also abstaining from sex and who respected the boundaries of their relationship
  • Tina shares how she began to seek God and truly hear His voice, during a period in her life when she was going through a divorce and members of her family turned their backs on her


Hold Yourself Accountable:

Know your convictions, root and ground yourself in them and don’t compromise.


Apply the Kingdom Principles:

“Seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness and these things will be added.” Matthew 6:33 (NKJV)


Take Action Now:

  1. Write down your convictions and values
  2. Invest in spending time in prayer and meditation with God each day
  3. With God’s guidance seek out an accountability partner
  4. Avoid rushing and placing yourself in compromising situations


  • Autumn
    January 1, 2015

    Very timely podcast for me that helped me to have transformative thoughts! It is a different walk as a non-Christian, but still helpful nonetheless!


    • Jay
      January 2, 2015

      I am so happy that this discussion was such a benefit to you and sparked some things for you to ponder on.

      Thank you so much for listening and God bless you!

  • Priscila
    May 14, 2016

    Thanksssssss sooo much for putting these podcasts put….honestly I really think it is God’s purpose for me to listen to this one….when today i felt so down after having met up a friend yesterday and seeing that she really wanted to find a boyfriend while she is Christian, she didn’t seek God first…somehow that made me feel down because I never dated and she also has never dated but she is now dating and found a boyfriend…after reflecting on the bible verse “Seek God’s Kindom first and all things shall be added to you” has made me realize that God has a plan and is so much greater than my desires…

    • Jay
      May 16, 2016

      Hey Priscila!

      Thank you so much for taking the time out to listen to the podcast. I truly appreciate it and I thank God that you have found so much value in the discussion.

      Yes! God has such an amazing plan for each of us. Continue to trust and believe that He has wonderful things in store for you and your life.

      May God continue to bless you!!!

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