70: Why You Must STOP Looking for the Perfect Spouse

Have you been looking for the perfect spouse?


If so, you’re not the only one.


Today, your search is over!




Because I have a podcast episode that I would like to share with you to help you understand why none of us will find the perfect spouse and, more importantly, why that’s a good thing!






Episode Title: Why You Must STOP Looking for the Perfect Spouse


Guests: Dino RedFollow Him on Twitter * Mr. Moody Follow Him on Twitter


Music: Luke James – Options (Wolfjames Version) * Kem – Pray For Me



  • We have to take off the rose colored glasses with relationships.” – Mr. Moody


  • “We will never be able to change who people are.” – Mr. Moody


Key Lessons:

  • Topics that must be discussed before entering into a relationship, but can be difficult to talk about
  • How to come to terms with not knowing everything about someone before entering into a relationship with them


Hot Topics & Takeaways:

  • Dino, Mr. Moody and Jay share their relationship non-negotiables
  • The instinct or feeling we get when we think we may have met someone who could potentially be “The One”


Experience is the Best Teacher:

  • Dino and Mr. Moody share what some of the difficult discussions they’ve had with women are
  • Mr. Moody speaks to his baby bro Jay and explains how he can overcome his desire to want to know everything about a woman before committing to her
  • Dino and Mr. Moody share the defining moments in which they knew their wives were “The One” for them



  • Autumn
    December 7, 2014

    Great podcasts,both of them. Great music. Love being a fly on the wall as you guys support one another. Right to Real Love is gold!

    • Jay
      December 10, 2014

      Oh yeah! I am so excited to know that you enjoyed both of the discussions. That brings me joys.

      Thanks for all of your continued love and support Autumn!

  • LifeCoach_Ces
    December 7, 2014


    This podcast was full of wisdom and transparency on levels that no book or presentation could ever provide. You ALL are clearly men of valor who collectively dropped some of the best nuggets of knowledge, in a short amount of time.

    I applaud Dino for supporting his wife’s decision NOT to pursue her dream career. I think many of us go on with the notion that we are always supporting the dream in progress, but to support someone who decides not to go after theirs is much more of a commitment – and requires extra doses of love. She sounds like an amazing woman in more ways than one, so I can only imagine the kind of husband he is, in return. I pray God blesses them both with many more years of love and happiness.

    Mr. Moody!! He literally shut down the shop when he said “don’t look, just live.” Such a simple phrase but it has SO MUCH POWER. Plus, I love the fact that he made it clear that he and his wife don’t agree on everything. Learning to agree to disagree is such a vital part of compromise, especially in love, and I thank him for sharing that truth. Wishing him and Mrs. Moody many more decades of goodness and “whatever” other goodness God has in store for them.

    Thank you for posting this discussion Jay! It’s clear that you all recorded this intentionally, but it really felt like I was listening to three best friends just chop it up. Keep up the great work and I look forward to greatness that is to come.

    God bless!

    • Jay
      December 11, 2014

      You are far too kind Ces! Thank you so much for listening and I’m glad that you enjoyed the discussion so much.

      That’s a great point. I never thought of how much goes into supporting someone who decides not to pursue their dream career. I pray that God continues to bless their union too.

      Yes, Moody definitely shut it down!

      “Learning to agree to disagree is such a vital part of compromise, especially in love”

      That is real talk and I agree completely.

      Thank you again for your kind words. I truly appreciate your continued support.

      God bless you too!

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