69: Things You MUST Know BEFORE Entering into a Relationship


How much do you need to know about someone before entering into a relationship with them?


The answer to that question will vary, depending on who you ask.


Regardless of what your answer to the question is, there are certain things that you MUST know!


In the latest podcast episode, we hold no punches and tell you precisely what things are MUST KNOW before entering into a relationship. Listen to it now:






Episode Title: Things You MUST Know BEFORE Entering into a Relationship


Guests: Dino RedFollow Him on TwitterMr. Moody Follow Him on Twitter


Music: Lyfe Jennings – She Got Kids * Tamia – Stranger In My House



  • We are very dating lazy.” – Mr. Moody


  • “If the outside package is strong enough then I think people are willing to overlook almost anything.” – Dino Red


  • “My only commitment to a woman that I’ve only known for a couple of months is to respect her.” – Mr. Moody


  • “Women will tell you their age and their weight before they tell you their FICO score!” – Dino Red


  • “Looking for perfection leads to disaster every time.” – Mr. Moody


Key Lessons:

  • The importance of not withholding information that can be damaging once it is revealed
  • The impact that secrets and the omission of certain information can have on a relationship


Hot Topics & Takeaways:

  • Mr. Moody explains how “getting know each other” has been redefined in this current technology age
  • The things that men tend to ignore in women initially that later results in them ending the relationship
  • Does a woman’s ability to cook really matter to men?


Dangers & Difficulties:

  •  The danger of committing too early
  • Things that are often purposely ignored because we like someone


Experience is the Best Teacher:

  • Mr. Moody and Dino Red share how big of a factor children were to them when deciding what women to commit to and ultimately marry
  • Dino explains why we should be cautious of focusing so much on past mistakes that we miss things that we need to be aware of in our current situation


Fun Times & Stories:

  • Mr. Moody tells us about the first meal his wife ever cooked for him…you have to hear this story!


Hold Yourself Accountable:

Be patient and take the time to get to know the pertinent things about someone before entering into a relationship.


Apply the Kingdom Principles:

” Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God.” Philippians 4:6 (ESV)


Take Action Now:

  1. Make a conscious decision not to rush into a relationship.
  2. Don’t be afraid to ask the questions you want the answers to.
  3. Choose to be patient.
  4. Seek God’s guidance throughout the entire process.


Show Some Love:

Please leave me a comment or a private message answering the following questions:

What things must you know about someone before entering into a relationship?


  • Autumn
    December 7, 2014

    What a great discussion with three thoughtful men, including two of my favorite podcaters! So good to hear you and Mr. Moody together! It was like a bonus Men Chat and you know I love men chats.

    The cooking thing was funny! I am continually surprised how important that is to men. Not all, as Dino said. I guess it just makes a man feel cared for. Not sure but it is definitely a thing.

    You guys were so honest and helpful. I especially liked when you said you want to know EVERYTHING. That speaks so much to who a man his who is willing to hear everything. As you said, be careful what you ask for because you just might get it.

    Very helpful chat to me in my dating life. My only question was, should some of these questions be asked in the dating stage or in the relationship stage? I do find that sometimes you don’t have to ask. If you spend enough time with a person you learn some things. Patience! Thanks guys for reminding me about that.

    What I need to know? I need to know about spirituality, if the man has found his purpose in life (which may differ than a job or career), how they feel about kids, and physical intimacy. There is a lot more, but those are most important at first Oh, and being in good physical health is important to me. Some guys go to the gym, but then eat buckets of fried chicken every day. It took me a while but I realized that I really want to be with someone with healthy health habits.

    • Jay
      December 8, 2014

      Hey Autumn!

      I am so happy to hear that you enjoyed the discussion with Dino, Mr. Moody and me.

      Yes, it is always a pleasure and a great time when Mr. Moody and I can chop it up, especially on the podcast. That way we get to share it with you and others.

      Oh yeah! You have been a HUGE support of MenChat from the beginning. I still appreciate that so much.

      Yes, cooking is definitely a big deal, whether most men are willing to admit it or not. There is something amazing about a woman who can cook!

      We were very transparent and I truly have wanted to know everything, but I now realize that’s not ever going to happen. I’m learning to be content with that.

      It is so important to be careful what we ask. Sometimes we are not prepared for the answers we receive.

      I believe the questions can be asked at either point, depending on the pace that the two people are moving at. My preference is to ask those questions before entering into a relationship, but that’s not to say that’s the only point in which they can be asked.

      Patience is so key! No question about it.

      All the things you named are VITAL!!!

      Thank you so much for sharing your takeaways and perspective. I always appreciate them and you!

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