68: How to Build Relationships on the RIGHT Foundation

The cornerstone of every relationship is the foundation.


If you build a relationship on the wrong foundation, it’s only a matter of time before it begins to fall apart.


Thankfully, you can avoid that ever happening again.


Make a decision today to learn what it takes to build relationships on the RIGHT foundation, by listening to the latest podcast episode.






Episode Title: How to Build Relationships on the RIGHT Foundation


Guests: Vincent & TiffanyFollow Vincent on Twitter * Follow Tiffany on Twitter


Music: Keithian – Power



  • If I don’t like spending time with myself, how is somebody else going to like spending time with me?” – Tiffany


  • “God is the glue that holds relationships together.” – Vincent


  • “Test are a part of life, but every test isn’t necessarily always from God.” – Jay Mayo


  • “It’s one thing to know of a person, but it’s another thing to know a person.” – Vincent


  • “Don’t compromise who you are for the sake of wanting to be in a relationship.” – Tiffany


Key Lessons:

  • The importance of building a relationship on the RIGHT foundation 
  • The essentials that must be included in the foundation of a healthy and long lasting relationship
  • Why we must happily embrace our singleness before establishing a relationship
  • Reasons why it is imperative for God to be included in the union between a man and a woman


Hot Topics & Takeaways:

  • Addressing and correcting the myth that God will choose our spouse for us
  • Why it’s vital to develop a friendship before a romantic relationship
  • The role that developing trust plays in establishing a relationship


Dangers & Difficulties:

  • Signs that you’re not ready for a relationship


Experience is the Best Teacher:

  • Vincent and Tiffany share how they prepared themselves before entering into a relationship and marriage together
  • Tiffany explains the struggle of managing expectations when entering into a relationship


Hold Yourself Accountable:

Don’t compromise the foundation of your relationships.


Apply the Kingdom Principles:

24 Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock. 25 And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house, but it did not fall, because it had been founded on the rock. 26 And everyone who hears these words of mine and does not do them will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand. 27 And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell, and great was the fall of it.” Matthew 7:24-27 (ESV)


Take Action Now:

  1. Decide to build every relationship on the foundation of the Word of God


Show Some Love:

Please leave me a comment or a private message answering the following questions:

What foundation have you built the majority of your relationships on?


  • Autumn
    December 1, 2014

    Great podcast! I really liked Vincent and Tiffany. I only wish there were more details! How long were they friends before it became romantic? What did they do about attraction during that time? Did they date other people while they were just friends? I totally agree that friendship is a great foundation, but I will admit that attraction can be tricky in those early stages. And not every relationship built on the foundation of friendship will work as a romantic relationship.

    I’m great at making friends and that’s the basis for almost any relationship I have. Not all of those friendships with men work out as relationships. But I will say one thing, that foundation it lasts throughout the breakup. Those men stick around, send me a card during Christmas, ask about my family. They care even when we are no longer together. And they are good men in their hearts and I know that because I knew them quite well before romance ever entered the picture. Maybe that’s why I don’t mind having a soul tie with a few of them. That foundation was real, just we weren’t quite building the house I was looking for!

    • Jay
      December 4, 2014

      I am so happy that you enjoyed this podcast and the things that Vincent and Tiffany shared.

      Those are some great questions. I will reach out to them and see if that would be willing to swing by and answer them for you.

      You make a great point about attraction and infatuation being tricky, especially in the early stages. That is why it is so important to let time pass and be patient, especially before entering into a serious relationship with someone.

      I agree that every friendship that develops into a romantic relationship won’t work. Either way, it’s good to get in the habit of entering relationship through that door rather than another door.

      It’s so great when a friendship is so strong that it can withstand a break up. I am happy that you still have those valuable friendships. That’s amazing!

      Thank you again for taking the time out to listen to the podcast and to share your thoughts. I apologize for the delayed response to your comment too.

    • Tiffany Coleman
      December 5, 2014

      Hi Autumn

      This is Tiffany :). Thanks so much for listening to the podcast. You asked some great questions. Vince and I became girlfriend and boyfriend in July 2007 and got engaged in April 2009, so we were friends for almost 2 years and to this day we are still friends :). Transparent moment…we were romantic once early on and we both got convicted and from then decided to have a non-sexual relationship until we got married (if we got to that point because we didn’t know then). During our dating we focused on romance and intimacy on other levels such as mental, emotional, spiritual, financial, etc. Whew the attraction….it was reallllllllll….lol. During our affectionate times, we had to cut it off before it got further because of that decision we made early on. Praise the Good Lord above for answering prayers on restraint and discipline. It was no easy task by no means. When we were just friends we didn’t date others. I know I was in a phase of my life where I wasn’t expecting anything and I was just dating myself.

      You are so right that not all foundational friendships lead to relationships, and just as you shared, you can still have a bond with someone because that friendship is what you both are standing upon.

      • Jay
        December 5, 2014

        Hey Tiffany!

        I would like to thank you so much for taking the time out to swing by and answer Autumn’s question.

        I also appreciate your willingness to share more details about you and Vincent’s relationship.

        God bless you and I look forward to speaking with you and Vincent again soon.

      • Autumn
        December 6, 2014

        Hi Tiffany,

        Thanks so much for coming back to answer my questions. This really fleshes things out of me. Even though you and Vincent weren’t sexual, you were still dating and exclusive. I tell you, it’s difficult if you aren’t convicted, but prayer still helps!

        I think it’s a highly unusual situation, especially these days, but I do think you guys have a great foundation as a result. I also think having gone to the well once was helpful because the curiosity thing was reduced too.

        I hear you about attraction! Another of Jay’s guests also suggested wearing granny panties and I’m trying that too, lol.

        Thanks, again!

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