Not too long ago, I had a real epiphalation!
You know, the sexy love child of Epiphany and Revelation.
The gem that was dropped on me was that being a gentleman is OVERRATED.
The instant it hit me I knew I was on to something.
I started replaying images and experiences from my past and everything started to make sense.
I’d seriously fallen down a rabbit hole and now I was in a panic to get out.
I Heard What Mama Said, But I Wasn’t Listening
Like many men, I learned from my mother that a real man is supposed to treat women with respect and be a gentleman.
Unfortunately, when she told me that, I simply wasn’t listening closely enough.
What I heard instead was, “A gentleman puts women first, always.”
Being the type of person I was then, I sadly took that misinterpretation to heart.
For a large chunk of my life I went through life believing that women should always go above me and come before me.
I hate to admit it, but I was seriously putting women up on a pedestal.
Hold on ladies!
Allow me to explain.
I’m not saying there is anything wrong with respecting and valuing a woman.
In fact, I believe ALL men should do that.
The issue I have is with men, such as my former self, allowing other people to outrank and take priority over themselves.
That’s a huge mistake!
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June 19, 2014
Awesomely written my friend. I knew a guy like this once. He was a great guy but he put women before himself. There was an air of desperation about him and I must admit it turned me off. I guess this is how men feel when they encounter women like this.
June 19, 2014
You’re so kind Ariel. Thank you for taking the time out to read it.
Yes, there is definitely a danger to placing other people above ourselves. In a sense, it gives them control over us…and that’s definitely not a good thing.
Thanks again for sharing your thoughts and all of your continued support! It is truly a blessing and a Godsend to me!