19: Cohabiting Before Marriage Does Not Equal a Better Relationship…


Moving in, shacking up, cohabitation…


Call it what you want.


It’s been a hot topic of years.


Some people see no issue with it.


Some people are firmly against it.


Some people are still on the fence.


One thing is for sure, I know where I stand.


I am firmly against cohabiting before marriage.


Not for my own personal reasons though.


I am firmly against it, because in the sight of God it isn’t right.


To some, it may feel or seem like the natural next step in a relationship.


To some, it may seem utterly harmless.


I can totally understand both of those positions.


However, I have one question:


From God’s perspective, is it the RIGHT thing to do?


Let’s abandon emotions, feelings and this worldly culture … at least for a moment.


Instead let’s look at things from the only perspective that matters: God’s.


When I do that, the answer to the question, “Should I move in with someone before marriage?”, becomes extremely easy to answer.


My answer is “no” and I truly believe it is the right answer, especially if someone desires to live their life in accordance to God’s will, purpose and Kingdom Principles.


For me, the matter of moving in with a woman I’m dating has nothing to do what I, my woman or anyone else may want, feel or think.


All that matters, to me, is doing what is pleasing to my Heavenly Father.


His original will and intention is for men and women to live with one another only after they’ve entered into a covenant of marriage with Himself and one another.


Therefore, that is what I plan to do.


If you’re interested in learning more about why you should seriously consider thinking twice before moving in with someone before marriage, I highly recommend that you listen to the latest podcast episode, “Want to Avoid a Relationship Disaster? Don’t Move In Too Soon”:





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Episode Title: Want to Avoid a Relationship Disaster? Don’t Move In Too Soon


Guests: JewelFollow Her on Twitter * James


Music: Sam Smith – Good Thing * Mali Music – Heavy Love



  • We think five years ain’t too much, but a lot of things can change within that time.” – Jay


  • “You can be living under the same roof as somebody and not be committed to them whatsoever.” – Jay


  • “We’re not going to move in together until you have a ring on your finger and we have a date set.” – James


  • “If you’re under the age of 25 you shouldn’t even be thinking about moving in with anybody. You should either be living with your parents or have your own spot.” – James


  • “I equate moving in to marriage… they come as a package deal for me.” – James


  • “I told him I wasn’t going to have sex with him, until we got married, and so he proposed… like a month later.” – Jewel


Key Lessons:

  •  The importance of addressing red flags before moving in with someone
  • The benefits of waiting to move in together


Hot Topics & Takeaways:

  • The perceived benefits of cohabiting
  • Kingdom Citizens and Christians who move in together before marriage


Experience is the Best Teacher:

  • James shares how his perspective of cohabiting before marriage has changed since entering his 30s
  • James explains why it was so beneficial for him and his current girlfriend to attend church together


Fun Times & Stories

  • James tells us exactly why his experience with cohabiting with an ex-girlfriend was a DISASTER
  • James shares the story of how he refused to enter into a jewelry store at an ex-girlfriend’s request


Hold Yourself Accountable:

If you are a Kingdom Citizen or someone who desires to live in accordance to God’s principles, laws and commandments, then you must be willing to refrain from moving in with someone before you’re married.


Apply the Principles:

“Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.”  2 Timothy 2:22(KJV)


Take Action Now:

  1. Make a decision to live according to God’s principles.
  2. Discuss with your partners the importance of sticking with your convictions.
  3.  Make a decision to do what’s right in the sight of God, not you or your partner.


Show Some Love:

Please leave me a comment or a private message answering the following question:

 Do you believe people should wait until they are 25 before they consider moving in with someone?