20: How to Build a Relationship After Sex

In an ideal world, couples should establish a relationship before having sex.


However, in today’s society, that isn’t always the case.


So, what can a couple do to build their relationship on a more solid foundation than sex?


As challenging as the task may seem, it is not an impossible feat.


If you would like to learn how you can build a relationship after having sex first, you must listen to the latest podcast episode, ‘The Sex Was Great, But Now What? (How to Build a Relationship After Sex)’:



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Episode Title: The Sex Was Great, But Now What? (How to Build a Relationship After Sex)


Guests: Crystal HickersonFollow Her on Twitter * J-Full Follow Him on Twitter


Music: Anthony White – Gotta Have You * Felicia Temple – If That’s What You Want



  • In my younger more dirtbag days, I had a two week rule. If I wasn’t getting the yams in like two weeks, I was on to the next.” – J-Full


  • “Just because you’re horny doesn’t mean you should be screwing around.” – Crystal Hickerson


  • “If I’m going to lay down with you on the first night or the first week or whatever and I don’t care, then nine times out of ten I don’t want to be with you. I just want to have sex with you.” – Crystal Hickerson


  • “I feel like it is more difficult for women to deal with rejection, especially sexual rejection, than it is for men.” – Jay


  • “When someone says they don’t want a relationship, then I take it as you don’t want a relationship with me.” – Crystal Hickerson


Key Lessons:

  • The conversation that people MUST have before having sex
  • The importance of building a relationship on the RIGHT foundation
  • How to press reset and build a relationship on the RIGHT foundation


Hot Topics & Takeaways:

  • The 90 Day Rule
  • The “Sex Test” that men give women
  • Sexual competition between women


Dangers & Difficulties

  • The misinterpretation of sex for intimacy
  • The dangers of building a relationship solely on sex
  • The difficulty of walking away from someone when the sex is great
  • The danger of confusing passion with disfunction


Experience is the Best Teacher:

  • J-Full shares his experience with pregnancy scares


Hold Yourself Accountable:

Make a decision about which is more important to you: sex or developing a serious relationship with someone that will last.


Apply the Principles:

“Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.” 1 Corinthians 7:1-2(ESV)


Take Action Now:

  1. Make a decision to, at the very least, develop a relationship before having sex .
  2. Take time to discuss the sexual aspect of your relationship with your partner before having sex.
  3. Stand firm on your convictions and the foundation that you and your partner mutually established at the beginning of your relationship.
  4. Hold one another accountable to stay the course and not crack the foundation of the relationship by compromising on your convictions and original foundation.


Show Some Love:

Please leave me a comment or a private message answering the following question:

Do you believe it’s possible to truly develop a lasting relationship after having sex first?