128: Does “The One” Exist?


Does "The One" Exist?In this episode Jay is joined by Peter Guirguis to discuss whether or not “the one” exist and if there is a “perfect” spouse for all of us.


We will examine the struggles we face when trying to find “the one”, whether we choose our spouse or if God has already predestined our spouse for us and so much more.


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Episode Title: Does “The One” Exist?


Guests: Peter GuirguisFollow Him on Twitter





  • I believe that there are multiple people you are compatible with, but there’s one person that just fits the piece of the puzzle perfectly.” – Peter Guirguis


  • “I don’t think that any person that God personally brings into our lives does not have the potential of being the RIGHT person for us.” – Jay Mayo


  • I don’t belive by taking our focus off of God we can find what we’re looking for.” – Jay Mayo


Key Lessons:

  • The differences between God’s perfect will and God’s permissive will
  • How to prepare yourself to find the one
  • How a Christian can find “the one”


Hot Topics & Takeaways:

  • Addressing the question: Do we chose our “one” or has our “one” already been predestined by God?


Dangers and Difficulties:

  • The struggles we face when trying to find the perfect spouse for us
  • The danger of trying to actively find our spouse


Experience is the Best Teacher:

  • Peter explains why he once thought he would never get married
  • Peter shares the story of how he met his wife



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  • Jay
    June 19, 2015

    Hey Josie! Thank you so much for listening to the podcast. I am so glad that you enjoyed the discussion with Peter.

    I really appreciate you sharing your belief in “the one”.

    I’m curious, why do you think marriage may not be God’s will for you?

    Thank you for your continued support! You can expect a shout out on an upcoming episode.

    God bless you!

  • singlemomsmile1
    June 19, 2015

    Hi Josie. I know the feeling because I used to feel that way too. I actually used to torture myself with the thoughts. Like Jay, I’m curious as to why you feel this way. For me it was a defense mechanism that I had to over come.

  • Vanessa Burke
    June 24, 2015

    This is a good podcast. I have only listened half way but will finish. I do have a question: What if you find who you consider the ONE, God’s perfect will, for you, and you choose him, but he decides not to chose you? So in this case, does God create ‘another ONE’ for you, or do you just have to ‘settle’ for “second best” or whomever God allows you to have within His permissive will?

    • Jay
      June 24, 2015

      Hey Vanessa! How’s it going?

      Thank you so much for taking the time out to listen to the podcast. I am glad to hear that you are enjoying it.

      WOW Vanessa! That is a great question.

      I will admit that I honestly do not know the answer to it. I believe that’s something that only God can answer.

      With my limited human thinking, I would likely question if the man was really “the one” or wonder why the woman received confirmation, but the man didn’t. But God sees beyond that.

      What I do know is what it states in Psalm 37:4 (NKJV), “Delight yourself also in the Lord,
      And He shall give you the desires of your heart.”

      I take from that, that it is God’s desire to give us the desires of our heart. If one of those desires is to be married, I truly believe it will delight God to give us that.

      With that being said, I don’t think it would be settling if God brings someone else into that woman’s life. However, I believe she must have the faith, hope and trust that God will stand by His Word and provide her with the desire of her heart, if she continues to delight herself in Him.

      I hope that something I shared is helpful. I’m also interested in knowing what your answer to the question you posed is.

      I look forward to hearing from you. God bless you!

      • Vanessa Burke
        June 24, 2015

        Hi Jay, thanks for responding! Hmm, my answer. That’s why I posed it to you and Peter because I don’t know (lol). So, on a serious tip: I actually thought of the same point you brought out: that perhaps ‘the ONE’ really wasn’t the one in the first place. And then I had to remember that the caveat, if you will, for God showing you the perfect person for you, was that you also were in His perfect will (if I understood what was said). Consequently, my next question to myself was, “Was this person in God’s perfect will at the time she thought she had found ‘the ONE'”? I know she wasn’t as close to God as she is now, but she was a believer and feared God. At the time, I don’t think the guy was seeking God very much. Later in life, he would admit that letting her go was the biggest mistake of his life, which made me wonder whether he had just missed God’s ONE for him.

        I’m reminded of the point Peter made that God knows all of our decisions we will make before we make them, and knowing those decisions, He can divinely intervene to guide us (in another direction perhaps). Because I also have a friend who seems to be married to ‘the ONE’ for her. However, she admitted that at the time they met, she wasn’t necessarily in God’s perfect will either (but was a believer), but now she is totally sold out to God and lives for Him. So I wonder if in this situation if God, in His foreknowledge about her decisions to follow Him much closer later in life, led her to ‘the ONE’ even when they were both not exactly in His perfect will at that time.

        So many questions and scenarios! I guess the bottom line is: I really don’t know! But this conversation is indeed interesting, so thanks for having it. I will listen to the rest of the podcast. If I have another Q, I’ll holla :-).

        Thanks again for your time. Grace & peace.

        • Jay
          June 25, 2015

          No problemo. It’s a pleasure to respond and interact with you.

          You posed a tough question…I won’t even pretend that you didn’t. LOL!

          I agree that they are a ton of questions to be asked and a variety of different scenarios that can occur.

          This is definitely something I would go to God with. Like you stated, I don’t know either. lol

          It is a very thought provoking discussion, which I really enjoy.

          Thank you for listening to the podcast episode. I hope that you will explore other episodes of the Right to R.E.A.L. Love Radio podcast too.

          Also, you can expect to receive a shout out on an upcoming episode, because you took the time to leave a comment.

          Thank you and God bless you!

  • Vanessa Burke
    June 25, 2015

    Hello Josie. Here’s a thought for you to consider (and please allow me to be blunt, with all respect): Ask yourself whether you have the desire to dedicate yourself to being celibate, for the sake of the Kingdom of God. In other words, do you desire to be with a man intimately? If yes, then it seems as if you do desire to be married. Like Jay reminded me of in a reply to my comment, Psalm 37:4 (AMP) says: “Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He will give you the desires and secret petitions of your heart.” Note, the scripture did not say, “except marriage” :-). Food for thought. I’ve been divorced for nearly 8 years but am still holding on to hope and trusting God to fulfill my desire and secret petitions to be married! I’m praying for a second chance. Mind you, I’m being careful to “delight myself in Him.” Not only for the ‘prize’ of being married, but simply because I adore, love and worship God. He deserves my ultimate delight, period! To God be the glory! God bless you, Josie.

    • Jay
      June 26, 2015

      Wow Vanessa! This is a very thoughtful comment. Thank you for sharing your insights with Josie. I appreciate that.

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