59: The Way We Think About the Single Life

What do men and women think about the single life?

 

Do they think differently?

 

Do they think the same?

 

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  • Autumn
    November 3, 2014

    I think men and women think the same. Some enjoy it and some don’t! Interesting point that God may have a purpose for you in life that may not include a mate. Hmm. I’m not sure how I feel about that. Yes, I trust God, but gosh. I wonder what other people think about that?

    • Jay
      November 6, 2014

      That’s real talk Autumn. There are some people who love being single and others who do not.

      I agree with Cesley’s statement that God may have a purpose for some people that does not include them getting married. That is totally possible and surely not for everyone.

      • Autumn
        November 6, 2014

        I agreed with Cesley’s statement. But how does one reconcile oneself with that? Especially if you aren’t going be a priest or nun or something. I know, I know, lots of talking with God. But just preliminarily, it’s something to digest.

        I wish I knew more people whose life plan is like that. Actually, I do know a few people like that. But they are very religious folks. They seem happy.

        • Jay
          November 8, 2014

          It’s definitely a HUGE pill to swallow. No doubt about that. I honestly do think it’s something that the majority of people could do or would want to do.

          You pose a great question. I will be sure to ask the fellow R.E.A.L. Lovers on an upcoming episode.

          I believe that’s a very normal response. Sadness, anger and frustration all make sense. Yet, it’s God’s peace that will make the difference and enable those in that position to prevail.

      • singlemomsmile1
        November 7, 2014

        So true. Sometimes I think the agenda God has for my life doesn’t include a mate.

        • Jay
          November 8, 2014

          Really? Why do you feel that way? (If you don’t mind sharing)

          • singlemomsmile1
            November 8, 2014

            I feel that way because I have gotten so comfy with my single status and the thought of it changing doesnt appeal to me anymore. I really like living life on my terms. That’s why I say I am in a selfish mode that is not good for a relationship. But I am aware of that and am not actively dating subjecting some poor man to that mentality. And I don’t see myself changing anytime soon.

          • Jay
            November 8, 2014

            I can totally understand that. There have been times that I’ve felt a similar way about being in a relationship. There is a level of comfort that comes with being selfish that being in a relationship doesn’t afford.

  • singlemomsmile1
    November 6, 2014

    I remember when I was afraid of being alone due to unresolved childhood emotional abandonment. I did some dumb and desparate things. I viewed singleness as curse. For some years I have been working on myself, my relationship with God, and focused on being a parent. I’ve come to love my singleness and enjoying myself. I must admit that I have become selfish in a good way when it comes to me, but it would not be good for a relationship. For a large part of my life I put others first and my happiness was last. Now it is all about me and what I want. I am enjoying that. I don’t have to answer anyone, worry about anyone except my daughter. I make my own decisions and do not have to consult with anyone but God. I find the older I get, I’m currently 37, I am enjoying my single status even more and hanging with my friends. I am content. I can’t believe I spent so many years running from this peaceful, carefree place. When I think about relationships and all that comes with them I say to myself “No thanks. I will pass.” At times I would like to have a guy in my life to share fun times with but most of the time not. I am actually satisfied knowing my Boaz may never come. I trust God to protect me, I make good money, and I have a great support system. Sex is not important to me anymore. i I think I’m set in my ways. If I do decide to date again God will have to show me who is to be in my life. Only time will tell. Until then I am living my life to the fullest.

    • Jay
      November 6, 2014

      Hey Ariel!!!

      Thank you so much for taking the time out to listen to the podcast and swing by and share your thoughts with us.

      I am so happy to hear about the amazing results, thus far, of your journey. It is truly a blessing that you have learned from your past and are fully embracing and loving your singleness.

      I can relate to the selfishness. I know that’s something I’m eventually going to have to work on.

      There are few things that rival the contentment, enjoyment and peace that God provides us.

      The state that you’re in is outstanding Ariel! It’s a place that some people, unfortunately, never reach. I thank God that He has enabled you to reach this point.

      Keep living your life to the fullest big sis!!! You totally deserve it!!!

      • singlemomsmile1
        November 7, 2014

        Thank you Jay!

        • Jay
          November 8, 2014

          You are very welcome. Thank you!

    • Autumn
      November 6, 2014

      “For a large part of my life I put others first and my happiness was last.”

      Been there, done that! I’m not in as peaceful a places as you, Singlemom but I am in a good place mentally and emotionally. It really took removing negative folks from my life. Seems simple but it’s not. And doing a lot of self-care.

      I just hope it’s not a choice between that peace and having a partner. I’m on a break but I don’t want let go of that hope completely. It’s like playing the lottery. I’m not dependent on winning, but I want to keep playin’!

      You sound really happy and that’s a good thing! Living and loving life!

      • singlemomsmile1
        November 7, 2014

        I know what you mean about cutting negative folks out of your life and no it isn’t easy at first, but over time you get used to it. When I get around them the dark cloud that hangs over them is so huge I don’t tarry long in their presence if don’t have to.

        I am in a very peacefully place. I’ve been through some dark times and I never thought I would make it this far…but God! You will get here in due time. My biggest concern at times is will I stay this way an never be with anyone againe to wake up at 70 hating I never have love another try.

        I like what you said about you keep playing! Kudos that’s great. That was a wonderful analogy. Take care.

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