41: Why Everyone Wishes They Had a Big Brother

A big brother and his sister



There is nothing like them.


They can make life challenging and amazing!


Although I am an only child, I know there are a lot of benefits to having a big brother.


After listening to the latest MenChat episode, you’ll know exactly why everyone wishes they had a big brother. Enjoy!



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Episode Title: Why Everyone Wishes They Had a Big Brother


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  • singlemomsmile1
    September 2, 2014

    This was a very touching podcast. As you know I have a lot of siblings and the ones that I actually grew up with played a great role in me maintaining my sanity lol. It was nice to have someone I could talk to and be like “Man mom and dad aren’t fair. They don’t want us to have any fun.”

    On the flip side the sibling rivalry and the favoritism was my least favorite part of having them around. Unfortunately some of us were not able to make it through that obstacle and we do not talk to this day. It’s very sad and hurtful especially when you really have so much love for that sibling.

    I’ve been in the situation in which I’ve had to cut ties with some of my family due to psychological damages. It’s tough but you have to do what you have to do sometimes. I wish things could be different but only God can make those changes.

    All in all I wouldn’t trade my siblings or the experiences with them for anything. I love them all. We had some good times and we leaned on each other so much back then. I know I wouldn’t have made it through my childhood without them.

    Now that I’m a mom and my daughter has siblings from her dad. I see how much she looks up to her older brother. When she knows there’s a chance she will see him it makes her day. I hope he knows how much she loves him.

    • Autumn
      September 2, 2014

      Singlemom, thanks for writing! That’s the truth about making it through sibling rivalry. Maybe that can be a question on an upcoming podcast. When to let a sibling go, when to fight for that relationship if you can. Is there always hope as long as you both are still alive?

      Your comment inspired a lot of questions in me!

      • singlemomsmile1
        September 3, 2014

        Autumn, I am so glad that my response was helpful to you. I would like to say there is always hope for reconciliation as long as we are alive. However, I do know that all parties involved have to have open hearts in order for true healing to take place.

        Please be sure to listen to Jay’s podcast on 9/8/14. I will be the guest speaker and we will talk about forgiving siblings who have betrayed you. What happened between my brother and I was definetly due to the sibling rivalry we had going up. Jay and I also cover when you should give up and let God handle the matter as well.

        Just incase you are unable to listen, I feel one should throw in the towel when he/she has done everything possible to genuinely apologize for whatever role they have played but the other party is not having any parts of the discussion or is unwilling to accepting the apology.

        We have to respect people’s boundaries and that’s what I do with my brother. He has communicated with me through his actions that he has not interest in maintaining a relationship with me. To be honest it’s that way between him and a few of our siblings. So I don’t take it personal anymore. I hope I have been of some help to you. Continue to pray and ask God to help you with this. Just know you are not alone. My brother’s bday is Sept 6. I want to call him but I don’t want to overstep my bounds.

        • Autumn
          September 4, 2014

          Thanks so much for your response! I’ll be listening on the 8th. I haven’t thought about this stuff in a long while but was just wondering while listening to the podcast. I’ve become quite good at letting stuff go. Family stuff is so painful too. Some things are best left in the past.

          Looking forward to the next podcast!

          • Jay
            September 5, 2014

            You’re right Autumn. When family is involved things become a lot more painful.

            In many cases, it’s a must to have God help us get through those experiences.

            I hope that you enjoy the upcoming discussion with Ariel and me.

        • Jay
          September 5, 2014

          WOW! I couldn’t have answered that response any better than you did.

          I’m so excited about our discussion being released next Monday!

          You’re right about respecting people’s boundaries.

          In regards to your brother’s birthday, I think you should seek God about what you should do. I know He won’t lead you astray.

          • singlemomsmile1
            September 5, 2014

            Thank you Jay! And I will definetly seek God about contacting my brother for his bday.

          • Jay
            September 6, 2014

            You are very welcome. I pray that everything works out well.

      • Jay
        September 5, 2014

        Those are some great questions Autumn!

        I know we touch on those topics in some upcoming episodes, but I can’t recall if those specific questions are addressed. If not, I’ll be sure to dive into them during the Love Matters segment of a show.

    • Jay
      September 5, 2014

      Nice! Nothing like having a sibling who’s able to keep you sane…or at least that’s what I hear. lol

      Yes, that’s the challenging thing about having siblings. Just because you’re family doesn’t guarantee that you’ll always be close or get along.

      You’re right Ariel. Only God can step in and help a person make those necessary changes in their life.

      I am so glad to hear that you don’t have any regrets when it comes to your siblings. That’s a blessing!

      That is so sweet. I pray that he knows how much she loves him too.

      Thank you so much for being willing to share your experiences with us Ariel. I appreciate it more than you know.

  • Jay
    September 5, 2014

    Yo! Watup J. Shan?

    I truly appreciate you taking the time to stop by and leave a comment. That means more to me than you know and I had to give you a HUGE shout out on the show for doing it. Thank you!

    No reason to apologize. You’re right on time!

    I can somewhat relate. Being an only child, I’ve often wondered how my life would differ if I had a big brother too. I know there are benefits that come from having a big brother and I wonder how different I would be as a person if I had a big brother to turn to.

    Similar to you, I’ve never had a relationship with my father. In fact, I’ve never had any men to lead me through my life. That’s one void in my life that I know has made things challenging, but I also believe it’s what’s drawn me closer to my Heavenly Father. Perhaps that wouldn’t be the case if I had my real father or another male influence in my life.

    I’m sorry to hear about the passing of your grandfather. I can only imagine how close you two must have been.

    Continue being an amazing big brother and do all the things you’d want a big brother to do for you.

    Thank you so much for sharing your experiences J. Shan. I appreciate it more than you know.

    • singlemomsmile1
      September 5, 2014

      Jay knowing you grew up without a make figure gives me so much hope! My daughter has no postive male figures in her life outside of the male staff at her after/before school care. You are a fine young man and it is a blessing to know you Jay. And I know if God can do it for you he can do it for my baby. Thank you Jay from the bottom of my heart for all that you do.

      • Jay
        September 6, 2014

        Wow! You are far too kind Ariel. Thank you for the sweet and encouraging words.

        I have to be honest, it is extremely challenging to grow up without a positive male influence. However, having a positive female influence, as well as the presence of God definitely makes a difference.

        I know that God will definitely be there for your daughter and you will raise her right too. Therefore, there is no doubt in my mind that she is going to grow into an amazing woman.

        Thank you Ariel! It’s a blessing to have you in my life and have your continued support!

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