42: Why People Place Friends Before Family

Who should come first: Family or Friends?


Many people believe family should always come first.


Yet, there are plenty of people who disagree.


There is no denying that some people value their friendships more than familial relationships.


Have you ever wondered why?


If so, you must listen to the latest podcast episode, ‘Why People Place Friends Before Family’:



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Episode Title: Why People Place Friends Before Family


Guests: IvaFollow Her on Twitter


Music: Estelle – Conqueror



  • My friends were my family and they still are to this day.” – Iva


  • “Abuse is not just physical. It’s very much mental and emotional too.” – Iva


  • “Ultimatums are not the most efficient way to attain the goal you’re trying to achieve.” – Iva


Key Lessons:

  • How to establish a stronger relationship with your siblings
  • The importance of prioritizing who should come first and under what circumstances
  • How to communicate to your sibling that you feel they care more about their friends than they care about their family


Hot Topics & Takeaways:

  • The power that lies within saying “I’m sorry”
  • The times when your friendship should trump your familial bond
  • Why we must be cautious about overestimating our value in other people’s lives


Dangers and Difficulties:

  • The dangers of turning our backs on our family to focus more on our friends
  • The challenges of balancing a relationship with siblings and friends


Experience is the Best Teacher:

  • Iva explains why she often places her friends before her family
  • Iva shares how the differences in her and her sisters personalities has made it challenging to develop a strong relationship with them

Hold Yourself Accountable:

It is your responsibility to maintain balanced relationships between your family and friends.


Apply the Principles:

“A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need.” Proverbs 17:17 (NLT)


Take Action Now:

  1. Evaluate your relationships with your family and friends.
  2. Identify any imbalances.
  3. Determine how you can correct the imbalances.
  4. Make a decision to restore the balance between your relationships with family and friends.


Show Some Love:

Please leave me a comment or a private message answering the following question:

Have you ever put a friend before family? If so, why?


  • John Shannon
    September 6, 2014

    J-Shan here, this was a very interesting episode. Not everyone has good relationships with their families nor have many friends, so it’s really all about Individuals that truly care for a person and if they are worth being around….

    • Jay
      September 6, 2014

      That is so true J-Shan!

      Everyone we interact with (family, friends or strangers) is not going to be worth our time or trust.

      Identifying who those people are is key. Once we do that, we can develop the balance necessary to maintain healthy and positive relationships with the people in our lives.

      Thank you so much for sharing that great point and I truly appreciate you taking time to leave a comment!

  • Destin
    December 22, 2014

    Friends deff before family, it’s all about who’s there for you through the bad times an the good. I can say for myself family hasn’t been there, through the journey I have been threw the last three years I have met some friends who been there through the worst times of my life an still stuck by me to this day when my family has been family for 30+ years aren’t there.

    For instance my sone was born with CHD and other defects requiring surgery at birth an not one family member was there to help with my other kids or to even stand through that’s toughest part of life when u need someone! My friends were there

    • Jay
      December 22, 2014

      Hey Destin! How’s it going?

      Thank you so much for swinging by to listen to the podcast and share your thoughts. I truly appreciate that.

      Sadly, there are some family members who will not be there, but thank God for amazing friends who are!

      It is so unfortunate that your family wasn’t there for you and your children when you really needed their support.

      However, I am so happy to hear that you didn’t have to experience your journey alone. It’s great that you had friends who stuck by you and were there when you needed them.

      That is truly a blessing!

      Thank you again for sharing your experience with me and I hope that you enjoy the other content on the site and will swing by more often. Also, I shout out everyone who leaves comments here on the site, so you can expect to receive a shout out on an upcoming episode.

      Thanks and God bless you Destin!

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