14: How to Change the Pace of Your Relationship

Do you feel like the pace of your relationship is off?


Perhaps things are progressing too quickly or too slowly.


If that’s the case, you need to consider changing your relationship pace.


I’ll admit, it’s not going to be an overnight fix, but it’s definitely possible for you to do.


If you are interested in learning how to change the pace of your relationship, start by listening to the podcast episode, ‘How to Change the Pace of Your Relationship’:



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Episode Title: How to Change the Pace of Your Relationship


Guests: VanityCheck Out Her BlogFollow Her on Twitter * QuincyFollow Him on Twitter


Music: Trey Songz – What’s Best For You *  Kelly Price ft. Ruben Studdard – Back to Love



  • “Hitting milestones really quickly, doesn’t necessarily make for longevity in your relationship.” – Vanity


  • “A lot of guys are slow movers, especially if the ultimate goal is marriage, because you want to get it right.” – Quincy


  • “I believe in actions. I could care less what someone says, if they aren’t doing anything that coincides with what they’re saying.” – Quincy


  • “When I commit to somebody, there is no halfway about it for me. I’m either going to give you all of me or I’m not giving you any of me.” – Vanity


  • “There’s nothing about relationships that’s ever going to be cookie cutter, step-by-step process…ever!” – Vanity


Key Lessons:

  • The importance of both partners moving at the same pace
  • The reason making sacrifices is necessary to keep your partner happy and maintain a healthy relationship
  • How to find and develop a relationship pace that is balanced


Hot Topics & Takeaways:

  • The fear a lot of men have about marrying the wrong woman
  • The differences between emotional and physical pacing in a relationship
  • How to combat against outside pressure to change the pace of your relationship


Experience is the Best Teacher:

  • Vanity shares how she dealt with the frustration of being in a relationship that she felt wasn’t progressing fast enough


Fun Times & Stories:

  •  Quincy shares a story about a woman who was ready to move in with him on the first date!


Hold Yourself Accountable:

Be man or woman enough to acknowledge that you are moving too fast or too slow.


If you aren’t satisfied with your relationship pace, hold yourself accountable to speak up and express how you feel with your partner.


Apply the Principles:

“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling. Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.”  1 Peter 4:8-10(NIV)


Take Action Now:

  1. Know why you want to change the pace of your relationship
  2. Seriously think about and consider the positive and negative impacts that changing the pace of your relationship will have on you and your partner
  3. Be able to clearly and verbally explain why you believe a change of pace is necessary for your relationship and discuss how you feel with your partner
  4.  Mutually decide to initiate a trial period where you both will test out the proposed new pace


Show Some Love:

Please leave me a comment or a private message answering the following question:

What do you think about increasing the pace of your relationship because you’re bored?