Every parent loves their children.

 

However, there are many parents who show favoritism.

 

Whether the favoritism is unintentional or intentional, it can have a lasting impact on their children.

If you are a parent who wants to know how to avoid showing favoritism or you want to repair the damage from showing favoritism…

 

Or if you are a child who has been impacted by a parent showing favoritism, you must listen to the latest podcast featuring Tonjie Reese and Pete Sapper, ‘Essentials for Healing from the Pain Caused by Parental Favoritism’:

 

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SHOW NOTES

 

Episode Title: Essentials for Healing from the Pain Caused by Parental Favoritism

 

Guests: Tonjie Reese – Follow Her on Twitter * Pete Sapper – Follow Him on Twitter

 

Music: Adia feat. Sean Simmonds – Rags to Riches

 

Quotables:

• “Whatever benefit that is manifested out of favoritism is outweighed tremendously by the downsides of it.” – Pete Sapper

 

• “Being a parent is the hardest job in the world, that no one is going to give you credit for.” – Pete Sapper

 

• “What we spend time with is what we love.” – Pete Sapper

 

• “When a child isn’t given the love they need at home, they do find it in different places.” – Tonjie Reese

 

• “The starting point of all change and all transformation is acceptance.” – Pete Sapper

 

Key Lessons:

• The importance of a parent to place their child’s happiness above their own
• How a parent can become aware of whether or not they are showing favoritism
• How parents can avoid showing favoritism
• How a parent can begin to repair the damage caused by showing favoritism
• How to disclose to a parent that they may be favoring one of their children, without them getting defensive or thinking that you’re attacking their ability as a parent

 

Hot Topics & Takeaways:

• How shared personality traits can lead a parent to favor one child over their others
• Signs that a parent may be showing favoritism…without even realizing it
• How favoritism may be balanced, if children are raised in a two parent home
• How to minimize the effects of favoritism
• Tonjie and Pete explain why it’s never too late for parents and children to restore a damaged relationship

 

Dangers and Difficulties:

• The dangers of a parent verbally stating that they favor a certain child
• The downfall of trying to raise a child to be everything the parent wasn’t
• Pete shares the effects of parenting on “autopilot”
• Ways in which a child can develop the courage to share with their parent that they feel like they favor their sibling more than them

 

Experience is the Best Teacher:

• Tonjie shares how things changed in her household after her family became blended
• Tonjie explains why it is vital for a parent to have one-on-one time with their child

 

Hold Yourself Accountable:

Regardless of the level of love you feel your parents may have for you, always love yourself and know that you are valuable.

 

Apply the Principles:

“Then God said, ‘Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” Genesis 1:26 (NKJV)

 

“I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; marvelous are Your works, and that my soul knows very well.” Psalm 139:14 (NKJV)

 

Take Action Now:

1. Acknowledge that your Heavenly Father loves you.
2. Make a conscious decision to remind yourself each day that you are loved and valued by God.
3. Write down and set a goal to remember the two Kingdom principles I shared with you.
4. Know that before you can address your parents level of love for you, it’s imperative that you have stored in your heart and committed to memory what your Heavenly Father has said about you in His Word.
5. Be reminded that our Heavenly Father is immutable and His Word is eternal; therefore, all the wonderful things He says about you and the love He has for you will never change nor end.

 

Show Some Love:

Please leave me a comment or a private message answering the following questions:

Do you believe the majority of parents are conscious or aware that they are showing one child favoritism over the others?