24: First Date Sex

first date sex

How do you feel about sex on the first date?


Are you for it?


Are you against it?


Regardless of what side of the fence you’re own, you’re sure to enjoy and learn something on the latest podcast episode, ‘First Date Sex’:



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Episode Title: First Date Sex


Guests: VanessaFollow Her on Twitter * Enrique Follow Him on Twitter


Music: Adrian Marcel – Don’t Disturb This Groove (Remix) * Travis Garland – Motel Pool



  • Without even speaking, a woman knows if she’s going to have sex with you within the first five minutes of your conversation.” – Enrique


  • “As soon as the sex begins, a relationship is on a woman’s mind.” – Enrique


Key Lessons:

  • Reasons to think twice before having sex on the first date


Hot Topics & Takeaways:

  • First date sex as a relationship deal breaker


Dangers & Difficulties

  • The difficulty of developing a relationship after first date sex
  • Dangers of having sex on the first date


Experience is the Best Teacher:

  • Vanessa explains why she believes women are capable of having emotionless sex
  • Enrique speaks to how women become bonded to a man during and after sex
  • Vanessa share why she believe it is vital for a man to know how to communicate and hold a conversation with a woman


Hold Yourself Accountable:

Be willing to accept the consequences of your actions, whatever they may be.


Apply the Principles:

“Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.” Galatians 6:7-8 (NIV)


Take Action Now:

  1. Know what you want
  2.  Directly and verbally communicate what you want to the person you’re dating
  3. Be fully aware of the consequences of doing something that doesn’t please God and is outside of His will


Show Some Love:

Please leave me a comment or a private message answering the following question:

Do you believe there is a justifiable reason to have first date sex?


  • singlemomsmile1
    July 11, 2014

    First of all I want to thank Enrique for educated brothers and sisters about oxytocin an it’s role in the sexual experience for a woman. Yes I say sisters too because some of us do not know how our bodies work. This is just proof positive that sex was designed by God and should remain in the realm of marriage.

    I agree with sex being a mental thing. The anticipation for me can be better than the actual act itself sometimes. What can I say?I’m cerebral like that.

    It is refreshing to hear that people won’t judge another and write them off as bad relationship material if they have sex on the first date. I personally don’t want to take that chance. I’ve recently come to realize that self control is something that I should exercise and I want my mate to do the same.

    • Jay
      July 12, 2014

      I can dig that. The mental aspect of sex is truly amazing!

      I’m with you. I prefer to exercise self-control and get to know someone before crossing that line with them.

      Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and answer Ariel!

  • Destiny's Truth
    July 11, 2014

    No, I do not believe there is any justifiable reason to have sex on the first date, if you are motivated by the goal of building a lasting and meaningful relationship with your new partner. However, if you are satisfied being a “one night stand” or just another late night, convenient “booty call”, then first date sex may be no issue. I have been tempted to have first date sex, but I always halted it no matter what the vibe. The question that I always ask myself is “how will I feel about myself after yielding to that temptation that goes against my convictions?” If my inner response is negative, which it mostly will be, I explain to my date that it goes against my personal convictions and ask why he is in such a hurry to sleep with me rather than get to know me first?
    I appreciated the view and position of your guests and respect their honesty and willingness to share their personal experiences in this regard. Their view is the majority and I respect the fact Jay that you are willing to address the real concerns and present a balance viewpoint on issues to your listeners, even if it is the polar opposite of your views. Thanks again for another remarkable podcast.

    • Jay
      July 12, 2014

      That’s a great approach Destiny.

      Oftentimes, we fail to ask ourselves those questions, as well as ask the other person questions too. I believe that should occur before any goes as far as to have sex.

      Thank you so much for the kind words. I’m really glad that you enjoyed the discussion. Thank you for listening and sharing your perspective and experience. I really appreciate that.

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