66: Why Having a Child Does Not Equal a Lifetime of Singleness

Are you a single parent?


Do you sometimes feel like you may be single forever?


If so, I’ve got great news for you!


The truth is, being a single parent does not mean you have been sentenced to a lifetime of singleness.


If you still have hope and a desire to enter into a relationship and one day get married, please don’t let go of that hope and that desire.


In fact, invest in yourself by listening to the latest podcast episode so that you can be encouraged that having a child does not equal a lifetime of singleness for you.






Episode Title: Why Having a Child Does Not Equal a Lifetime of Singleness


Guests: Laurell BayFollow Him on Twitter


Music:  Bizzle ft. Jin, Sho Baraka & V. Rose – It Takes a Village * Jonathan McReynolds – Lovin’ Me



  • I’ve learned to let a lot of things go and stop assessing so much.” – Laurell Bay


  • “We have to be examples for our children.” – Laurell Bay


  • “It takes a village to raise a child. You need people to help you in some way to raise a child. Don’t feel like you’re weak just because you need help.” – Laurell Bay


  • “When you’re in a dating environment, you have to pliable.” – Laurell Bay


  • “If you want something different, you got to do something different.” – Laurell Bay


Key Lessons:

  • How to overcome the fear of telling someone you’re interested in dating that you have a child
  • Why it is necessary for single parents to step out of their comfort zone


Hot Topics & Takeaways:

  • Why single parents must learn to not be concerned with the happiness of their child’s other parent
  • Things that hinder some single parents from dating long after their child has moved out of their home


Dangers & Difficulties:

  • Challenges that single parents face when trying to date and raise a child at the same time
  • Is it more difficult for a single mother or a single father to get back on the dating scene?


Experience is the Best Teacher:

  • Laurell shares how he responded when he discovered he was going to be a father
  • Laurell shares how he feels when women put him through a deadbeat dad assessment
  • Laurell sheds light on how being in the military effects his relationship with his daughter and his ability to date


Hold Yourself Accountable:

Remain hopeful, prayerful and positive.


Apply the Kingdom Principles:

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29:11 (ESV)


Take Action Now:

Laurell provides some amazing action steps during the discussion. Please take a listen.


Show Some Love:

Please leave me a comment or a private message answering the following questions:

Is it more difficult for a single mother or a single father to get back on the dating scene?


  • singlemomsmile1
    November 25, 2014

    As you know I am a single parent so I was all over this one as well. I think it is harder for a single mom to get back into the dating scene than a father. Like Laurell said, society seems to think we should put our lives on hold and focus on our child(ren) instead of a man. I beg to differ. There has to be balance for effective and healthy parenting to occur.

    • Jay
      November 30, 2014

      I am so glad that you enjoyed this discussion Ariel. Thank you so much for listening!

      I also think that it is harder for single mothers to get back on the dating scene.

      You’re right, there should definitely be a balance. That’s the key. However, it’s far easier to say “balance”, but actually finding and developing that balance can truly be a challenge.

      What challenges have you encountered and overcome? If you don’t mind share. Thanks Ariel!

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