74: How Men Feel About Commitment (Part 2)

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Episode Title: How Men Feel About Commitment (Part 2)


The Men:



  • “Every time I hear committed relationship…I hear marriage.” – Dr. Tommy Shavers


  • “Don’t be looking around at other people’s relationships, as a benchmark for your own. That’s a recipe for failure.” – Dr. Tommy Shavers


  • “Guys always want a girl who is respected by their friends and who their friends and family likes.” – Justin Stenstrom


  • “You can be committed without love, but you can’t love without being committed.” – Dr. Tommy Shavers



  • Autumn
    December 23, 2014

    Wow, that one was confusing! I think because each guest had such different opinions and ones I hadn’t heard before. I forgot what some of the questions were.

    One question I had was for Richie. He said that if a man was dating someone who was celibate to hang in there as long as he could but if it wasn’t working to leave. Why hang in? Celibacy either is a dealbreaker or it isn’t. I think it would be harder to break up with someone after getting attached. Even if you do hang in and fall in love a dealbreaker is usually still a dealbreaker.

    I also disagree about a commitment not being one if it’s non-marital.
    There are many different types of commitments for different types of
    people. I’m a flexible person and I don’t think commitment is one size fit all. What matters most is the that the two people be on the same page with their definition of what commitment really means.

    Thanks for letting me be a fly on the wall while men chat!

    • Jay
      December 23, 2014

      Hey Autumn! How have you been?

      I appreciate you taking the time out to listen to the episode and I’m sorry to hear that it was confusing.

      You make a very valid point about celibacy being a dealbreaker. If that is the case, I agree with you that a person should determine that before entering into the relationship. Like you stated, why even get attached to someone on that level just to breakaway at a later time.

      “Even if you do hang in and fall in love a dealbreaker is usually still a dealbreaker.”

      That is REAL TALK!!!

      Once again, I’m with you in regards to commitment too. I don’t believe everyone’s definition is going to be the same. However, like you mentioned, the key is for the two people involved to be on the same page and have a unified definition of commitment.

      I should also mention that it’s not likely that those two people came into the situation with the same definition, but I believe that a couple should develop their own definition of commit (as well as other aspects of a relationship) together.

      Thank you for listening and being willing to share your thoughts, perspectives and takeaways with me. I truly appreciate that.

      God bless you and have a joyous holiday sis!

      • Autumn
        December 23, 2014

        Thanks for replying so close to the holiday! I hope you have a wonderful one as well!

        Keep the men chats coming in 2015!

        • Jay
          December 23, 2014

          Of course! I pray that you and your loved ones have a very blessed holiday too!

          Trust me there will be more MenChat episodes in 2015! Great topics in store too!

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