188: What’s So Bad About Living Together Before Marriage?


What's So Bad About Living Together Before Marriage? with Tara Gates AndersonIn this episode of the #WhatDoYouThink series, Jay and Tara Gates Anderson pose the question: What’s so bad about living together before marriage?




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Episode Title: What’s So Bad About Living Together Before Marriage?


Co-host: Tara Gates AndersonFollow Her on Twitter



  • “You’re tempted when you put yourself in the position to be.” – Tara Gates Anderson


  • “You have to have God first in your relationship with whomever you’re with.” – Tara Gates Anderson


  • “Be sure that God is living in your relationship before you try to live together.” – Tara Gates Anderson


Question We Address and Answer:

  • What’s so bad about living together before marriage?


Key Lessons and Takeaways:

  • How living together can lead to having premarital sex.
  • Why you must be aware of the temptation to have premarital sex.
  • Why you should think twice about living with someone before getting married.
  • How staying in God’s Word will keep you on the right track.



  • Jay shares an experience of his that has led him to believe that we should be careful about becoming too confident in our ability to control the temptations we encounter.
  • Tara opens up about her experience of living with someone without being married.



  • Nor let us commit sexual immorality, as some of them did, and in one day twenty-three thousand fell. 1 Corinthians 10:8 (NKJV)


  • Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.1 Corinthians 7:2 (NKJV)


  • Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.– Hebrews 13:4 (NKJV)



  • Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.1 Corinthians 6:18 (NKJV)


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  • Autumn
    September 26, 2015

    The podcast focused on sex. What if people lived together for a short time before the wedding and abstained? Isn’t that still wrong? I think God would think so.

    I just think people aren’t prepared for marriage so living together makes people feel that they’ve tested marriage out. Not just about sex, but about whether they can cohabitate peacefully. Sex is the least of the issues. I found that simply living with people is hard and there are some things that come up, sex aside. Tidiness, finances, just what the responsibilities are, some people want to know that stuff before getting married.

    If we were better prepared and knew our fiances well enough, maybe people wouldn’t feel a need for a test run.

    I don’t know if there is a test run for marriage. Nothing is like the real thing, baby. 🙂 That said, my friends who lived together before marriage are all still happily married. So what do I know?

    • Jay
      October 6, 2015

      Honestly, the choice will always be made by the individual’s involved. God may convict one person in an area and someone else may not experience the same conviction.

      That is why I think it is important for us, as individuals, to read God Word and listen to what He has to say to us. It’s what God tells us that matters the most.

      What I say, think or believe does not matter. God always should have the final say.

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