39: Signs Someone Isn’t Interested and Why You Should Not Care!

Finding out someone isn’t interested in you sucks!


Wouldn’t it be great to know that they weren’t interested before you fell for them?


Of course it would!


If you would like to discover the signs that someone isn’t interested in you, you must listen to the latest podcast episode, ‘Signs Someone Isn’t Interested and Why You Should Not Care!’:



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Episode Title: Signs Someone Isn’t Interested and Why You Should Not Care!


Guests: TyishaFollow Her on Twitter * QuinneFollow Him on Twitter


Music: Sam Smith – Not In That Way * TJ Pompeo – If I Have to Wait



  • Women claim to be great communicators, but when it comes to that tough talk about ‘I’m not into you.’ or ‘It’s not you, it’s me.’ they struggle with that.” – Quinne


  • “Guys struggle with talking on the phone, but for someone they really want to talk to they make those concessions.” – Quinne


  • “If I guy is only texting you, only Facebook messaging you, and that’s it, he’s not that into you.” – Quinne


  • “I think a woman should call after a date too, because it’s not nice for the man to always have the pressure on him to do everything.” – Tyisha


  • “In this day and age, guys fear being called the one most ugly word in dating…and that’s thirsty!” – Quinne


  • “If a person isn’t willing to enter into a committed relationship with you, there are just some boundaries that you should not cross.” – Jay


  • “Anything that a guy would normally do, in a situation with dating, if a woman over does it…that’s thirsty!” – Quinne


Key Lessons:

  • Signs, hints and clues you need to know to identify someone who is not into you
  • Determine when it’s time to stop waiting for a call and just move on
  • Signs that you won’t be getting a call back after a date
  • How to let someone know you’re not interested in them, without being rude


Hot Topics & Takeaways:

  • Whether or not you should expect a call from someone after a bad date
  • The distinct differences between men who are thirsty and who are gentlemen
  • The LONGEST someone should wait to call after a date
  • Tyisha and Quinne explain how men and women can avoid getting thrown in the thirsty zone


Dangers and Difficulties:

  • The struggle of letting someone know you are not interested in dating or pursuing a relationship with them
  • The danger of developing bad habits with people you’re dating
  • The difficulty of breaking ties with someone you’ve been intimate with


Experience is the Best Teacher:

  • Quinne expresses the hurt we feel when someone lets us know they aren’t interested in us
  • Quinne shares a strategy to break things off with someone without making them feel like it’s something wrong with them


Fun Times & Stories:

  • Jay shares one of the most awkward dinner experiences he’s ever had with a woman


Hold Yourself Accountable:

Don’t think that someone not being interested in you means that you’re not good enough or that there is something wrong with you. Always think positively and highly of yourself.


Apply the Kingdom Principle:

“For the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.”James 1:20 (ESV)


Take Action Now:

  1. Know and appreciate your true value
  2. Do not allow someone else to control your mood or define your value
  3. Always remain positive and respectful
  4. Trust that God has someone better in store for you
  5. Don’t give up hope


Show Some Love:

Please leave me a comment or a private message answering the following question:

What is the best way to let someone know you are not interested in developing a relationship with them?


  • singlemomsmile1
    August 25, 2014

    LMBO Jay the convo was like having sex with a person who just lies there!! Love it! At any rate. This episode reminded me of the guy that “hallowed manned” on me this summer. He chatted me up for a few hrs, took my number, told me he felt like he knew me forever (red flag in my book) and never called but wanted to communicate by text (red flag 2). Eventually he never called after he said he would. I eventually deleted his number. He obviously wasnt that interested. NEXT

    I’ve been in the situation of being way more into than the guy. He dropped all kind of hints but I didn’t get it. Eventually I got the hint after I confronted and he got mad and flipped the script on me.

    I’ve also been that chick that was doing all the calling and a guy was giving me crumbs via text messages. After dealing with that foolery I was able to spot Mr. Hollow Man this summer.

    I’ve also dealt with the guy who was way more into me than I was them. I actually let him know that it wasnt going to work out and we were better off as friends.

    • Jay
      August 25, 2014

      LOL! I couldn’t think of any other way to describe it. It was so awkward sis.

      Sounds like he was just playing games. Definitely not worth your time.

      Word?! He got mad because you liked him more? That’s wild. Also, I’m curious, how did he flip the script on you?

      You have definitely been on both sides of the fence and it sounds like you have learned from each of those experiences. That is truly the key.

      • singlemomsmile1
        August 26, 2014

        Because he was not communicating verbally I had to send him an email outlining my issues with him. I was nice about it by he had serious issues with learning I wasnt going to take his lack of interest and actually told me that trying to pursue anything with me was a “mistake”. Can you say “Employee handles criticism poorly…”

        • Jay
          September 5, 2014

          Wow! I think you handled the situation well though.

          Thank you for answering my question.

  • Autumn
    August 25, 2014

    That was a great discussion. Unfortunately, I don’t have a good answer to your question. I am usually honest with guys whom I’m not interested in or have lost interest in. I just tell them the truth in the nicest way possible. I don’t use the ‘let’s be friends’ line if we were never friends to begin with. Why? Because friendship is hard work. If I’m not interested, I don’t want to string him along.

    I am writing mostly to send a hug to the guy in the first song! So sad! So hugs sent. And I will tell myself in the mirror, that I’m all that. (Sometimes I do but your way was funnier.) Made me smile. 🙂

    • singlemomsmile1
      August 26, 2014

      That song was sad it made me cry.

    • Jay
      September 5, 2014

      I can totally understand that. I think honesty is the only way to handle those types of situations. No reason to lead people on.

      You’re very smart not to use the ‘let’s be friends’ line. I believe people leave the door cracked open when they use that term. Sometimes the door needs to be closed completely.

      Yes, the lyrics in Sam’s song are so relatable. Hugs for everyone who has been in such a situation!

      LOL! You are so silly. I’m glad it brought a smile to your face. Definitely, continue telling yourself that you’re all that too!

  • Destiny's Truth
    August 30, 2014

    Handling rejection is painful, but the previous podcast gave some great tips on how to overcome the fears and feelings that result from being rejected. Jay, your guest, Tyisha and Quinne, made some very good points about how to know someone is not into you and how to communicate your own personal disinterest. I agree that women offer talk about being great communicators, but often do not readily tell a guy what we really feel, because we do not want to hurt his feelings. We must learn to be honest with the other person and true to ourselves. The best way to convey to someone that you are not interested in being in a relationship with them is to gently and lovingly tell them you would prefer not going any further in developing a serious relationship and state exactly why without making it about what they failed to do and more about what you are seeking to develop.

    Another show filled with nuggets of knowledge and spiritual insight. Thanks

    • Jay
      September 5, 2014

      You’re right. Rejection can be very painful.

      That’s so great that the other episode was so beneficial to you. I thank God for that!

      “We must learn to be honest with the other person and true to ourselves.”

      That statement is TRUTH!!!

      That’s a great way to let someone know you’re not interested. It truly boils down to honesty.

      Thank you so much for listening. I’m really glad you enjoyed the discussion and took some positive and valuable insights from it.

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