292: Why People Settle Instead of Waiting for the Right Person (Part 1)


Why People Settle Instead of Waiting for the Right Person (Part 1) with AutumnIn this episode, Jay is joined by Autumn to address the question: What factors cause people to settle?




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Episode Title: Why People Settle Instead of Waiting for the Right Person (Part 1)


Guest: Autumn Follow Her on Twitter


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  • “A lot of us look for our purpose in a relationship.” – Autumn


  • “We only know as much as we’ve been taught.” – Jay Mayo


  • “I can’t afford to settle.” – Autumn


  • “Potential can lead us down the wrong road, especially if we are more focused on it than the purpose of a person.” – Jay Mayo


  • “Our singleness is a time of preparation.” – Autumn


Questions We Address and Answer:

  • What factors cause people to settle?
  • Are the majority of people more willing to wait for the right person to come along or to settle?
  • Have you ever felt tempted to settle?


Key Lessons and Takeaways:

  • Why many of us are willing to settle.
  • The importance of knowing our purpose in life.
  • The danger in trying to force people to change.
  • Why purpose is more important than potential.
  • Struggling to trust God in every area of our lives.
  • The value in embracing the process instead of skipping it.



  • Autumn admits that she used to just wing dating.
  • Autumn explains how she discovered that she wasn’t as ready for marriage as she thought she was.



  • But I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God..1 Corinthians 11:3 (NIV)


  • Sometimes I wish everyone were single like me—a simpler life in many ways! But celibacy is not for everyone any more than marriage is. God gives the gift of the single life to some, the gift of the married life to others.1 Corinthians 7:7 (MSG)


  • I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. 33 But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— 34 and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. 35 I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.1 Corinthians 7:32-35 (NIV)


  • This is why I speak to them in parables:

    “Though seeing, they do not see;
        though hearing, they do not hear or understand.”Matthew 13:13 (NIV)

  • Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”Matthew 19:26 (NIV)


  • Then he continued, “Do not be afraid, Daniel. Since the first day that you set your mind to gain understanding and to humble yourself before your God, your words were heard, and I have come in response to them.Daniel 10:12 (NIV)


  • Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him.James 1:12 (NIV)


  • Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.Galatians 6:9 (NIV)


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1 Comment
  • Otitoaleke Akinola
    February 2, 2016

    Nice discussion. So, Autumn, when do you think you will be ready? Or when will you know you are ready? You can reply me on facebook if you prefer that.

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